Also, I listened to 2 conversations between WH and OW. One on home phone where I can hear both sides, and one from in his car. Ya know... for someone with "no relationship", he sure askes her a lot of very detailed questions about her kids and daily schedule.

I had a little fun with him, too <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Heard that she had a doctor's appointment the next day. They laughted at how he should remember who her doctor was because that doctor is "very popular with people he knows" (!) SO guess what - I ACTUALLY ALSO had a doctors appointment that day too - with the same doctor! It was several hours later in the day, but when I told WH about it, I told him I thought it was "somewhere around 4 or so" the same time HER appointment was! HA! I let him worry about that for a while. Told him about 3:50, that I found out it was actually later in the day.

Funny thing was, he is SO GOOD at covering up, I really didn't detect anything in him. Listened to the recording from his car later, and thought he DID talk to her, and asked her the time of her appt, he NEVER said anything to her either!



Anyway, I had a little laughh.

Would this appointment happen to be your gyno? I would tell him about the affair and who the ow is. I would tell him I wanted a full panel of std tests and I would suggest he ask her for the same. He won't be able to say your name to her or to give you details of her visit, but it might make for an interesting visit when she goes in and he asks her about her 'sexual' activity and suggests she needs an STD panel.

I am not trying to be mean here- but what is more important- his company doing well or your marraige?

By one of your comments I am thinking you are putting too much emphasis on his company making a go of it.

We've already done that. Not to worry. The OWH and I even discussed results.

Regarding the business VS marriage - well, it's not that his buisness is that important, but it IS the only source of income right now. I am looking for a job, but have not gotten anything for sure yet. Yes, actively looking, I'm not just saying that either. I just don't want to lose more than I already have. Sure, anyone can say it's just "Stuff" but when it's pay the mortgage this month or not, and not just do we keep paying for DirecTV, its harder. In general term, of course our marriage is more important. At the same time, the end of the month is near, and we need CASH to pay bills. I have always told my WH that I don't care where we live or how much $ we have, as long as we are a family, it's enough. But right now, we DO have this house, and it needs to be paid for. We can sell the house, but this month mortgage still needs to be paid for. And probably next month too, or our credit rating goed down, and we get a poor interest rate on a smaller house, and maight still pay as much. See? It's a delicate balance... and it involves more than just me. Thats all.