in the meanwhile ... just continue to read this site ... you are not quite ready for bold moves ... why not? ... because you lack a plan
Pep
I have to disagree. I think an ultimatem is actually fitting for right now. I have been working on creating a better home, better husband for about 6 months. However I still suspect she is with him. So as some others here have recomended, and my counseler. I need to eliminate this man from her. No contact.
I informed her tonight, she needs to find a new job. She cannot work overtime anymore, and I want to see the phone logs since she got the phone, or I will have to seperate.
She is actually out now thinking to herself. What caught me as perculiar, is she was most stuck on the phone records. The others she agreed to. This unfortunately only furthers my suspition, as if there was nothing to hide, it should be the easiest one to do. Considering there is a marriage, and a child at stake.
So in reality, its really a part of Plan A that I should have enforced when I discovered the affair was legitamate. I may not know all the termenology of this mans work. Such as "plan B", but I have spent a considerable amount of time understanding an affair, and what should be done to attempt a repair. However, I didnt follow through with all the recomendations, such as no contact. As financial pressures created that situation more difficult.
But its better late then never I guess. I hope she chooses to work on our marriage. I know I have alot to offer. But if she does not, I can feel secure in trying every possible option. I will not live a life of "checking over my shoulder" as one poster said.
