Star!
Pep!
Stop it!
<grin>
Important topic. Touchy people. Expectable.
I've told my little girl nothing about why we divorced. She believes it's my fault - and that it is a bad thing. I have not corrected her. We seem to have a reasonably OK relationship. She's a girl. Her Mom's a girl. (Just in case that wasn't obvious, LOL). If you tell somebody "your car is ugly", they will feel bad. If you tell a girl something unpleasant about her Mom, the girl will feel bad. I'm not sure I gain anything. I don't lie to her. I just don't discuss it. Later. Later. (I think)
But maybe soon?
You see, a few months ago, my XW married the OM... .but she has not yet told our daughter. She isn't living with him (except perhaps wihen DD is with me). She doesn't want DD to know. What do I gain by telling my daughter about the A and all that?
All I can imagine that I gain is that DD might become hostile toward OM. That's fine with me, but I don't know that it solves anything. I don't think she sees him often. She knows him by name, but doesn't know (as far as I know) what's going on or what has gone on almost all her life.
I'm think about it.
She'll be with me over Labor Day weekend. Maybe that would be a good time to talk about it. She's hard to talk to. She doesn't respond like other children her age - is a little behind in her speech (although she can read quite well - better than any other 5-year-old I know). So, I could tell her something, and she'll ignore me and start reciting some story that she read.
I think she's not far enough along in communication for me to be able to discuss it with her very well.
-AD
