My WH has been out of the house since June 22nd. We were planning on legal separation. He's been talking divorce-for my health-but when I asked him how a divorce would benefit me, he had no answer.

About 10 days ago I found a lump and it's cancer. I meet the onocologist tomorrow. My dad (a retired Dr) will come with me to interpret.

Please pray for me.

I'm sorry to hear that. Have you been getting mammograms every year?

I turned 35 last year and had to have my first mammogram.
The past year has been filled with tests, ultra sounds and more.
I thank the gal upstairs that all has turned out well.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Blind

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I am so sorry. The added stress couldn't have come at a worse time. I will say prayers for you. Be good to yourself and let your family support you.
S.

Thanks all for your responses. Thank God for mammograms. As an adopted kid with no medical history on the birth parents, I've had mammograms for 6 years. It was a comparison of past films that found the lesion to be more dense, and in need of a biopsy. I am hoping I found it soon enough.

Although it does add to the stress, it does put things in perspective.

Thanks again. I'll post tomorrow after I meet with the cancer dr.

Thank goodness you've had mammograms. That is excellent news! I would not worry a whole lot about the cancer, as usually it is present for a long time before there are any symptoms.

My roommate had breast cancer, and her doctor told her it had probably been there for 5 years.

Have you told your husband and is he being supportive?

I did tell him, but didn't expect much in response. He had sent me an email about our separation finances and possible division of my retirement in the event of divorce (he is pushing for that). My response was that I am not prepared to talk about this right now.

I have no expectations that he will be available to me. He is an entirely different person than I have known for 22 years.

I am very hopeful about the results. I know I will have surgery to remove the tumor and some lymph nodes. If it hasn't spread to those, I won't need any further treatment.

You are in my prayers. Do whatever you can to minimize the stress in your life. Focus on healing your heart, mind, body and soul.

I would refuse to discuss any kind of divorce or settlement while you are going through this.

He sounds like he is quite foggy. I really thought he would come out of it by now.

Hang in there. Things will get better, but it sure hurts to be going through 2 crises at the same time.

I'm so sorry. Praying for you!

I met with a surgeon today. My dad was a great help. It's a small tumor and there is a chance it is contained to just that part. I have chosen to have a mastectomy.

With any luck, there will be no involvement in the lymph nodes and I won't need any more treatment. I can live without a breast. I just want to be here for my children.

I will do whatever it takes to make that happen. I'll be having the surgery the last week of Aug. The nurse will call once they know the surgery schedule.

This is great because I can still take DS (14) and his best friend to the ocean for a few days as planned next week.

Don't know if WH will be at the surgery. But, I know I have my family and church family to lean on.

My wonderful future son-in-law went with me to the "bad news" meeting with my doctor and held me after I came out in tears. It helps my mind rest at ease knowing my daughter is marrying such a caring young man.

Thanks for your prayers. I will post again after the surgery when I know if I have to have chemo.

You will be in my prayers, Johnstwin.
Best regards,
Brit from Belgium

Good luck with the operation. Accept every bit of help that comes your way during your recovery. Take care. TT