Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum
This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at
mbrestored@gmail.com
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jan 2005
Posts: 1,253
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jan 2005
Posts: 1,253 |
My lawyer just called me. They had been frantically trying to contact me during my trip. Unbeknownst to me but definitely known by H, things are moving ahead on a divorce. Once H signed the serving papers, the countdown started.
I have a week to get all of my financial paperwork together. A date for the first meeting with the judge has been set for next month.
I'm extremely irritated that H wanted to make me feel guilty for never contacting while I was away. He said it was a "bad message" and it made him feel that he didn't want to try working on this marriage. What a lie! He knew everything was in the pipeline BEFORE I left. How typical to make it seem like it's all my fault.
I really wasn't ready to come back from a wonderful trip to this kind of garbage. However, I feel really strong. So, bring it on!
Grapes are versatile. Grapes can be sour, sweet, sublime as wine and fabulous even when old and dried out.
Me: BS
XCH: Clueless
2-DS: Bigger than me
1-DD: Now also bigger than me!
5/6: Personally served CH with divorce papers
6/6: CH F? wants to time to see if M can be saved
7/6: FCH reenters our lives to work on marriage but secretly signs papers to start divorce...what's that about?
Mediation set for November
Final dissolution in January 2007.
2008 and beyond: Life goes on...
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Dec 2004
Posts: 1,978
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Dec 2004
Posts: 1,978 |
GG...I'm glad you had a great trip.
Your WH is a JERK! (sorry couldn't control myself)
Do you want the D to proceed?
aka-confused42
BS-45 me
WH-42
DS-14 & DD-12
together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs
"I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04
D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
Recovery finally began Jan 2007
We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jan 2005
Posts: 1,253
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jan 2005
Posts: 1,253 |
My lawyer tells me that this is beyond H and I. We're scheduled for a court hearing in September. I have until Thursday to finish my financial disclosure paperwork.
I'm finding all the paperwork very confusing. I'm not exactly sure what I need to copy and what I don't. I've been going through bank statements and credit card bills trying to pull the expenses portion together.
I thought I had most things. Unfortunately, I discovered that some of the tax and property things I'd pulled aside were gone. H had taken them while I was on my trip. After a couple of text messages, he promised to bring them by. He has but now I have another mound of paper to go through.
I feel very sad and upset about all of this. However, when I look at H, I see a person who is not a whole man. I think about all of the crumbs I've taken through the years. This will be a horrible time and then there will be a fresh start.
I can mourn but I can also move on. H may have the big job and the fat paycheck but I have more internal resources.
Grapes are versatile. Grapes can be sour, sweet, sublime as wine and fabulous even when old and dried out.
Me: BS
XCH: Clueless
2-DS: Bigger than me
1-DD: Now also bigger than me!
5/6: Personally served CH with divorce papers
6/6: CH F? wants to time to see if M can be saved
7/6: FCH reenters our lives to work on marriage but secretly signs papers to start divorce...what's that about?
Mediation set for November
Final dissolution in January 2007.
2008 and beyond: Life goes on...
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Feb 2003
Posts: 2,553
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Feb 2003
Posts: 2,553 |
"H had taken them while I was on my trip..."
Huh? He can get into your house while you're not in it?
You sound good, grape. Sane.
"Virtue -- even attempted virtue -- brings light; indulgence brings fog." -- C.S. Lewis
|
|
|
|
0 members (),
2,025
guests, and
164
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,625
Posts2,323,525
Members72,049
| |
Most Online8,273
Aug 17th, 2025
|
|
|
|
|
|
