i have been dating this guy for 4yrs now. wen we started going out he didn't mention that he was in another relationship where he got 2kids i found out and i was very sad because he never but i forgave that. I had never gone to his house he used to avoid talking about it but i didn't insist i later came to find out that he still living with this woman they had kids with. wen i found out he moved out and now we live together. alot has happened between us and the love i used to feel for him is almost over i have left him enough times but he always manages to convince me to come back. Begining of this year i found out that he had slept with another woman to try and prove he'd not cheated on me he took me to see this woman thinking she'd not reveal his infidelity which she did but he left her there and then and he's promised me they've not had any contact. He lies about petty issues ve tried to show him the importance of honesty in a relationship and he's finally gotten it the problem is i don't feel him anymore, i don't want to be intimate with him. ve been rude to him told him all sorts of negative things but he still insists he loves me and he wants to marry. he's promised to stop lying and be a better man.i don't know what to do coz this guy is in love with me he's done crazy things just to get me back each time i leave. i know he loves me but am having problems trusting him what kind of relationship can survive without trust. he's told me to give him one more chance to prove that he can be honest with me, but because of his past am finding it had to believe him. if he earns my trust could i ever feel the same for him , how can i look over his past lies and see the love he has for me.Give your suggestions

He's addicted to lying single choice
	can he stop lying
	should i trust his word
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Thank the Lord that you have not married this man!,
and I am sorry but I do not believe this man loves you.
its sounds to me like he needs you 2 very different things, he feels like he has to have you or he will fall apart, thats not love. he is looking for someone to complete him,to make him happy. I am sorry sweety but only a relationship with God can make anyone truly fullfilled,complete, happy, and if he is having troubles being honest and faithful to you now then geting married will only make things worse not better, I know this because my husband cheated on me too before we were married but everytime I would find out and try to leave him he would smother me , trying to prove his love for me until I would give in and agree we could try again, well to make a long story short , we are married now been married for 2 years, I married him believing his lies that he had changed and believing that he would forever be mine, boy was I wrong 2 years now and he treats me worse then ever.he still lies often and cheats. I understand that when you are inlove you want to believe everything your guy says, and dont get me wrong I know that people can change and do sometimes change for the good. but dont marry him hoping me has changed or will change, and if I were you I would separate from him ( no contact), hopefully you will be able to clearly figure out what is healthy and best for you.

Run, don't walk to the nearest exit from this BF.

You've already figured out his pattern. He will be very resistant to change it.

Unless you are willing to tolerate this cr*p for as long as you are with him I would head for the nearest exit.

trust is a very hard thing to gain back. if he has shown a pattern of being dishonest that is not a positive thing. if it was a one time only situation that would be different, but this will likely continue in the future.

Run! He sleeps with other women, lies...why are you still there? Marriage is about trust, love, building a life together...

When you marry someone, you have to ask yourself if you can really live with their flaws. My husband cannot hand wash a pot. I can live with that. I cannot seem to close all cabinets and drawers. Somehow he lives with that. But cheating? lying? You are not giving yourself enough respect...and he certainly isn't.

People generally don't change much...if you don't like the way somebody is before marriage, it is only going to get worse, not better!