*whew*
Quick link to past history:
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...part=1&vc=1What a week. WH had a terrible start last week, but we are now firmly (VERY firmly) in NC and withdrawal. OW has made it very clear that she does not want WH. All is verified with OW's H.... and I'm able to see some pretty clear signs of her change in behavior. And that while WH is still feeling the feelings of "love" for her, OW has completely let go and has NO feelings for WH. (To which I am floored, but I believe!) Again, all this is confirmed through sources and actions.
WH was placed in a new sq and is making GREAT steps forward. I've seen such a change in him toward ME this last week. Yes, WH has had a couple of bad days where he thinks about OW, but he will let me know if it's been a good or bad day. Communication is now open.
We had a date on Saturday and it was the first time that we had FUN instead of simply trying to spend that time together, and be uncomfortable.
We've got a LONG road ahead, but we are in this together. He's told his DO that he is committed to ME and that he intends to stay with me until he dies. That he loves me. That he said he didn't love me anymore because he wanted so badly to be with OW and it would just be easier to make me hate him... and for him to believe that he didn't love me.
Just didn't have time to hop on here to update...
But I believe that this week... was the first week of the rest of our lives. That we WILL make it.
I still check emails. Phones, and other sources... but I can see that he is honestly trying. That SHE is gone from our lives (and will be gone from HERE next month once she is out of the military). OW's H and I speak about once or twice a week to make sure how things are going and to encourage each other. To make sure that our spouses are telling the truth.
So far, so good. But I believe that we'll make it.