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#1734204 08/21/06 09:23 AM
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I'll try to make my story short.
Last week my husband came to me and claimed he was unhappy, said he had been for awhile and it took some else to realize that. I had NO clue about it. It's been going on just a handful of times in the past 2 months. I've found out also that she is pregnant. He has left me and our 2 boys for her.
We have had a great marriage. 2 weeks prior to this we finalized our plans to Disney World next year. We were great up until the day before he told me. He said he had planned to work things out with me but the pregnancy changed it all. I honestly feel in my heart that he is trying to push me away. He has made comments about how could I ever take him back. I don't see what this woman can hold over him. What can make him choose a woman he does not know and a child that(and I hate to say this)was a mistake over me and our two boys conceived out of love?
I'm heartbroken. My heart has shattered into a million pieces. Where do I go from here. I'm needing all the help I can get.

Thanks


~ Suzy ~
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Hi Suzy,
I am so sorry for the pain you are feeling. It is such a difficult situation, especially with the other women's pregnancy. I hope that you have a couselor or clergy person to talk to as soon as possible, as you need some professional advice on how to handle this. My family and friends cared, but didn't give me any advice on how to actually 'save my marriage'. I hope you and your boys all the best of luck.

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saralee407 #1734206 08/21/06 09:38 PM
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Welcome to marriagebuilders. I hope you will zip on over to the pregnancy/child forum. They are experts. Be sure he gets a paternity test. Sometimes it turns out that the man is NOT the father.

Is the other woman married?

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Thanks for the help. I've asked him to get one, but he says it all points back to one night(condom broke) and at the Dr appt it all fits back.
But I'm done now. We had a long talk last night and he told me he's in love with her and actually looking forward to the baby. He never wanted any more kids.
No she's not married. She's been divorced for almost a year.

I'm done being sick over this.I've tried all I can do. I can't give it 110% and he does not even try. At least I can tell my boys one day that I tried everything.


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