Hi Daisy,
I was in the same situation, maybe worse. He was her boss. They could not force either to leave so they worked together for a year after the A. He moved his office to another building and added a manager for her to report directly to. None the less it was hard.
My MC also would not insist on my H leaving his job. He'd been there for 10 years and was a VP and loved his job as well. Our pastor would not insist that my H leave. I had a friend who made her H leave and later regreted it. I stuck it out for the year, praying the whole time.
Almost exactly a year later, my H got the job of his dreams out of the blue. He quit and works closer to home, fewer hours and is even happier. God answered my prayers...on HIS time and in a better way. I realized after my H left, how glad I was that HE left. I don't have to be around all those people who know about the A. I don't have to feel embarassed everytime I see his co-workers having them know my H picked her over me. It is totally OVER and I don't have any of the ugly reminders that his job brought with it.
She is still there and doing well on her job.
Having them work together was VERY hard and once my H left I did feel better. I'm sure you will as well. Just don't expect it to be the cure all. It is only one piece.
I hope it all works out for you. I do believe in letting God be the master of all, so I did not insist on anything. I prayed and believed and God heard me...AMEN.
I am happy for you!
