W agreed to stay in house if I or she moved into another room. Tough because we have a small 3 BR house with no extra rooms. Son agreed to share his room with me and daughter agreed to give up her room to W. Both kids are wonderful and trying so hard to keep us all together.

W wanted D, now says separation for one year might be more appropriate so she can afford discount on rent. (I'm not leaving our home.) We cannot afford another payment of anything. We are not poor but never have any $$ left over. I don't know how we can do it.

Anyway. Any advice on how to "live together" during this time when she says she needs "space". W does not want me in same bedroom. We are cordial toward each other at the moment, talking about kids, house, $. You know, all the daily stuff, but she does not want to talk about us.

MC says glimmer of hope that W is willing to stay in house. I need encouragement and advice on how to make this work. I am trying to stop all LBs and listening to everything she says. I don't understand some of it but I am listening. Most of what I am reading on this site is survival tips and info for marriages that are already over. Mine is heading that way. I want to save it before it's too late.

I suggest you move onto the Emotional Needs board and read up on the MB concepts and on Plan A.

You can save your marriage and make it better than you ever imagined. The tools are on the MB site. It will take work, and you must be willing to give, give, give, but the rewards could be amazing.

Remember you can only change you, so work on yourself.

Good Luck.

i will play the other side of the coin here a moment. i would not necessarily agree that it is a glimmer of hope she has decided to stay in the house. mine stayed in the house because it was just easier for him to do. then he would not have to get a place, pay rent, etc... he could live here and do as he wished. why mess up that gig? he had a good thing going. we had separate rooms and separate lives. didn't bother him a bit. and saved him $$$.

there are 2 sides to every coin... don't know your sitch to know which side she is on. mlhb

We must be reading on different sites. This site is Marriage Builders® not Sorry For Your Luck.

A good portion of the information relates to surviving infidelity but there is also a good portion that relates to Emotional Needs, Love Busters, POJA, Undivided Attention.

While you are working 80 hours a week, how much time can you contribute to your wife? Harley suggests a minimum of fifteen hours each week of one on one personal time and then using the time to meet his or her most important emotional needs.

Do you know what her most important emotional needs are? Have you done the Emotional Needs Questionaire with your wife?

Eliminating LBs is not enough to get you out of your hole. I also suggest that you venture over to the Emotional Needs board. They can help you put the MB concepts to good use...even with a resistant spouse.