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#1734437 08/21/06 07:24 PM
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My husband and I have been married for 2 years,
and we have one daughter together ,
I found out 2 months after we were married that he had a
one night stand with his exwife, he told me this,
and promised never to do it again, well I forgave him,
and the affair has continued and gotten worse, his exwife calls my house all the time to tell me they are still having sex, and when I ask my husband if this is true he of course says no that she is lying, this has been a on going affair that acording to his exwife he has sex with her about once a month, and he tells me its not true, but I really dont believe him , I have asked him if its not true to call her in front of me and confront her about the lies,
but he wont, and he has been very rude and distant with me,I asked him several times to stop contact with her but he wont because he has 3 kids with her, they were divorced like 10 years ago and have had this sexual relationship sence then.( which I dident know about till after we were married.)
I really dont know what to do anymore,
and I have threated to divorce him but he wont take me seriously because I have threatened divorce so many times. he seems to be addicted to her, he calls her several times a day and go's to her house almost every night and will be gone till sometimes 3:00am. he does not want to have sex with me at all, and is totally distant with me, I feel like we are just roomates, I at times want to just divorce him , but then he will come to me and say things like he loves me and wants to work things out , and he will make comments like "are you going to let her destroy our marriage?", but he never changes his actions. I am ready for things to change, this has been going on for 2 years and thats long enough.
any advice welcome!
God Bless you all
Love Lisa

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1. don't make threats ... take action

2. don't love-bust ... it only makes HER look good

3. get an attorney secretly to find out what you are entitled to in the event this all falls apart

4. if OW/XW is married or otherwise has a love interest (other than your husband) .... call and expose the affair without warning

5. have an escape plan ready ... somewhere to go if you need a safe harbor in an emergency

6. decide just exactly how many second chances one man should have ... then stick with that number!

Pep


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