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the real reason that she does not and will not be with me anymore. She doesn't LOVE ME anymore, maybe the last time was way in the past.
She said when she gets the funds she will divorce me.
Then she is telling me that she will move the children 49 miles away because I am telling and crying to anyone who wants to hear it.
I am taking her friend away from her. I am moving in on all the people she and I are friends with.
I dunno what to do anymore.......
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She said when she gets the funds she will divorce me. start getting ready for Plan B .... have you got stuff lined up? Pep
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please tell me more about plan B......
Stuff?????
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You've been here since MARCH 06, and Plan B is still a mystery?
Why is that?
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start here < click & read
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next read this < click & read this too
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OK I can not post, why am I having a problem
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OK I have read the two links and I have been Plan Bing for a while. and plan Aing too.
How do I communicate if we have children?
Oh boy I a losing it today
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They ALL say they never loved their partner - or most anyway.
You need to do a good Plan A, followed by a good Plan B.
Have you done a good Plan A?
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Yes I have done plan A and I have to move to plan B....
How do i KNOW if my plan A was done sucessfully?????
please help
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Her little "49 mile" comment should be documented. It will not bode favorably for her in a custody battle. Problem is it was a statement she can deny making. Thus, you may consider sending her an email which inocuously confirms the statement. She won't consider disputing it NOW but later in court she'll KNOW not to repeat it.
Send her an email about some other topic and throw in:
"You know that statement you made the other night about how if I don't stop telling people about your affair and trying to save our marriage you'd take the kids and move 49 miles away was very hurtful. I'd never do that to you. We have our issues and whether we make it or not I hope both of us can agree to leave the children out of this. I promise you today, that should we divorce I will NEVER do anything to interfere or hurt your relationship with our children. You and I would likely not be friends then but I will still necessarily respect you as the mother of my children."
This kind of documentation will support you and hurt her in any custody dispute and she won't even know it. You may even get an adiitional incriminating response. If so, keep going...repeat the "hurtful" comment above and stick to the "best interests of the children"...see if you can get more bad responses.
This may end up a war....as a MAN you must prepare your legal position very diligently if you ever hope to win, let alone break even and get 50/50.
email me if you want further advice on custody disputes. Our email address is below.
Mr. Wondering
FBH(me)-51 FWW-49 (MrsWondering)
DD19 DS 22 Dday-2005-Recovered
"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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great idea,
the 49 miles away is because in our separation agreement she nor I can move more than 50 miles......
I have legal separation for thelogistics when we sell the house, she is acting un married and i am acting married....
She tells me that I need to come to grips with it. What is she showing my 17 and 16 yr old girls
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Your daughters are old enough to decide for themselves which parent gets custody. The court will weigh their desires very heavily. If younger children are also involved the court will very much want to keep them all together.
Have you exposed the affair to your daughters????
Have you read Star*fish's recent thread about exposure to children???
Mr. Wondering
FBH(me)-51 FWW-49 (MrsWondering)
DD19 DS 22 Dday-2005-Recovered
"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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