My Wife and I have been having problems all the way through the marraige of some 22 years. It has now reached the stage where she is living with her sister and brother in law. I found this site about 2 weeks ago and last week ahe agreed to look at it and complete the questionaires. She has yet complete them all and when we do speak and I ask how far is she I get told that she does not have as much time as I do and everthing I suggest is rebuffed with no time work taking all my time.
What she has admitted after looking over the site is that she comes out of family in which there was and still is a controlling father/Spouse in every aspect of their life and they (the children) moved out as soon as it was possible. In fact he is still controlling the mother and looks to exert control over all the family. To the point that our children don't even want to talk to him or have anything to do with him. I can see that the early mistakes we both made in our marriage has been taken by my wife as me trying to control her (which has never been the case. I have always worked for myself and therefore there have always been good times and bad times at the moment we are going through a very tough patch and my wife will not discuss any other issue other than the current our current finacial crush. She is only prepared to discuss once I have sorted it out (Seemly to her saisfaction). I feel that we would be able to sort it out together but at this time it is not an option. Her seeming imovable position is even affecting our children as they are not getting the same attention as before. As an example they have at best seen thier mother for poss 10 hours in the last 3 weeks. I feel that it seems that my wife has gone from feeling controled to wanting to control and if not then there is no way forward. How do I resolve.