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LA, I'm very sorry to hear about everything that is going on with your son. Such stress! And before the holidays, too.

With regard to exercise and long muscles, I have a suggestion: Pilates. As a former skater, I swear by it. I love my reformer.

I swim for about 30 minutes a day in the summer and enjoy it immensely. I do it more for the mental aspect than for exercise, but I'm also not going for speed when I swim.

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LA, I'm glad to see that you're back swimming in self-care <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Like that Rocks in a River, just keep leeting those deposits add up, know that they are, hon. Is the swimming good practice at remembering to breathe?

((((LA)))) Glad to see you back


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Just offering my .02 worth of (((((((((LA)))))))).

For all you've given me in terms of time and thoughtful advice, now is the time I wish I could return the support. What I've got offer is cyber support -- hopefully it's enough to help you through what is a very rough go. If I knew the state in which you lived, I may be able to offer some legal mumbo jumbo to help get the car back....

I've been on both sides of those civil suits and had my fair share of arguments...usually, at least with the 3 states I'm familiar with, there's an argument to get the car back....

You've been a tremedous influence for me LA...I hope you know how much I appreciate having you here and hearing your thoughts...you are valuable, you are worthy, you are you.

(((((LA)))))


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mvg...being in your thoughts is a warm comfort. Thank you very much.

EO!!!! Oh my gosh...just like drinking cool water after a long thirst. LOL on the swimming in self-care...you'll be in my head this afternoon as I "lap it up"...caution: punfest.

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And about breathing...gosh, ya know, that may be why I finally relax afterwards...'cuz I'm NOT reminding myself to breathe through the day. Thank you!! (Okay, just did. Wahoo.)

DSJ,

Oh, that's right...I just had a V8 and it didn't stop that DUH moment. Yes, I'm in Colorado. It's a Denver ordinance, though...not a state law. I really don't know how to proceed with that. I think I'll know more when DS gets some paper work on it. So far, only verbal from the police department.

So help me with the argument...please. I know you appreciate our relationship...I just forget to remember.

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Helps remind me when I get to SEE you.

My heart's full right now, you guys...Rinners...I'm really touched you're posting to this thread. Thank you.

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One day..... as the story goes........ a women walked along the beach.

Her life was troubled. (Isn't that a nice way to talk about the horrible things we go through?)

It is said that she prayed as she walked along the beach, and it came to her that she should write her troubles in the sand. Taking a stick........... she wrote......

As she finished, she noticed the waves getting closer.... and closer.

Soon the writings vanished away. The waves left a stretch of clean, wet sand where her words used to be.

Time is like the tides. It has a way of taking away our troubles.

LA, I don't know where you will be in 100 years. I do believe that many of these experiences that trouble you now won't even rate a footnote by then.

I don't mean to minimize the pain, and the stress, and the work it takes to get through things.

I do mean to help you put things in perspective.
Perspective is a wonderful thing. It enables us to continue to work on things and prevents them from overwhelming us.

Remember that this life is a test...... it is difficult by design. We do well at some subjects, and poorly at others. It is different for all of us.

Take joy in the things you do well. Work on the things you need to work on. Don't let the working on the one, keep you from celebrating the other.

Jesus said "Be of good cheer, I have overcome the world."
That means that no matter what we go through, he can, and will help if we continue to look to him for that needed help. It is not a maybe, it is a promise and it is more sure than the sunrise we expect tomorrow.

Merry Christmas - and keep in mind what this really means, in light of the promises that God makes to those who look to him for help.

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I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
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(((SS)))...can't type...monitor is suddenly all blurry.

Thank you.

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It is easy to see from what all your friends are writing that you are loved, and that they want happiness for you.

I can't help but believe that they will, in the end, get their wish.

We try so hard to say things that will help, and we hope we do, but words often fail to convey how much we care.

Hope you feel it though.

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opps, double post - doesn't happen much these days.

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I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
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BTW, I left out part of that quote - It may be of more help to include the whole verse.

From John16:33
These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.

Merry Christmas LA - and best wishes for a happy new year. May you find joy in the journey.

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I'll be glad to give something hopefully useful for you! Let me do a little research and see if I can find that ordinance on the Net...

and "I'll be back".

...chin up LA...friends surround you - one of the greatest things when the world seems the dimmest...last night, for some reason, the "Footprints" poem entered my mind -- do you see one set of Footprints in the sand or two?

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HURRAY Diamondsj! Thank you for stepping up and offering LA your help...

LA- How are you feeling today? I AM felling good...been talking to POWS this morning about the kids and I'm okay.

How's that monitor today? Do I have to ask DH to get another one? LOL...Figured I would ask about the operator, then the equipment!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

SS-Thank you for sharing that! it's awesome!
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I can't help but believe that they will, in the end, get their wish.

We try so hard to say things that will help, and we hope we do, but words often fail to convey how much we care.

Hope you feel it though.

YOU NAILED IT THERE! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Merry Christmas Everyone!!!


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We have a similar ordinance, but in our case, they rarely take the car if it's financed, especially if it's someone else's. Even in drug cases, they've decided not to seize the vehicle before.

It may not be that flexible over there, but here it's sort of up to the discretion of the cop, whether they take the car or not ... I wonder if a little gentle, humble pleading from your son with the sgt. or someone higher up in the department who took the car would work?


HTO used to be a felony in this state. Right before we got married, my H had a friend who actually went to prison (not just jail -- he was in Canyon City) for 18 months for HTO. He was sentenced and had just started serving his time when they changed the law. He did 18 months on a 3-year sentence. For too many traffic tickets. THAT was crazy. I'm glad they at least changed that law.

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Thank you, PK, for your suggestion. I did pilates three years ago after I'd lost the weight...most intense workout I've ever experienced. I'm using what I learned from pilates in the pool...every third lap I do, I hold my core muscles (while breathing out) rigid for the entire length and only swim with my arms.

Once I get my endurance up and some more weight off, I'll do the yoga classes again. I think those were the best. Time will tell if I get long muscles or short ones.

Thank you for your support.

I think SS knows my monitor got blurry 'cuz of my eyes, Rin...operator tear-ror.

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I still want Lasik, though.

Thank you for checking around, DSJ...whenver you have time. This is more waiting for information, written notifications...knowledge. No rush. Hang time sucks, though.

Rin, it's my granddaughter's first birthday today. I was thinking about you grounding OS this week...coparenting...and here I am, blessed beyond imagining, really...still focused on crud. I get her for the whole weekend...and I'm a little afraid of that! LOL

(Wish I'd gotten in shape all year now...doncha know.)

Fullness is still there...thank you all for helping me to see it...to write my stress in the sand...to know we connect and disconnect...and I believe...remain connected, always, through God's grace and design.

Who knew letting love in can hurt as much as not letting it in?

We'll get through this together...each day, we do, don't we?

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and I believe...remain connected, always, through God's grace and design.


Love it, love it...

((((LA))))


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I'm glad you said to take my time...just found the ordinance, printed it, and it's 22 pages long...may take me a bit to absorb and digest it....

If I've got specific questions for you regarding this situation to better help you, do you want me to post them here or would you rather email me? If so, I'll provide my email address for ya. Doesn't matter to me, you may not want to divulge all sorts of info. Any info. I'd ask for wouldn't require divulging personal info...just facts and things.

Now I'm in my legal mind instead of my MB mind...can you tell? lol. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />


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LA:

Sorry about cluttering up your thread....

You should still fight this thing.

Doing what's right takes a lot of work.

Learned THAT around here.....

Whatever the low spots, there are friends here, to put thands thru the monitor to lift you up!

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Dont wanna thread Jack....

LA- I have missed you in my thread!

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DSJ,

I would love your email. You can post it and I can catch it, then you can remove it, 'k? Your legal mode is as cool as your MB mode. I know that ordinance is really long...I've read through it. The part pertaining to us was only added in 2005.

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Zach...I've been wrapped up in my own stuff...struggling with the MB board as well. I haven't forgotten you...I see all the help you're getting. I will chime in, 'k? I appreciate the nudge.

LG...you enhance, not clutter. I am going to fight this...funnily enough, just don't know the way yet. Not just for my son...for all those 1745 ones who were clueless of these consequences...

And yes, I really do feel the love push through my monitor...when I face my fear of letting others down, not being there for them, and ask for their help...just as they add to my life when they ask...that was the tricky part. Wish I'd done this earlier.

I'm planning on starting a new thread in Recovery forum, too...and would appreciate you keeping your eyes peeled for it. I'd value your input very much.

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I'm planning on starting a new thread in Recovery forum, too...and would appreciate you keeping your eyes peeled for it. I'd value your input very much.


Oh, pooh..

I don't visit the Recovery Forum...


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Why not, Mimi?

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