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Why not, Mimi?

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I never could fit in over there for some reason..

I might check it out again..

Plus, my time is so limited...so I have to focus..


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Gotcha, Mimi.

I cherish your focus.

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I would love your email. You can post it and I can catch it, then you can remove it, 'k?


Here it is...I'll leave it for awhile, then delete. Let me know you got it....

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Got it!

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Thanks LA!

Your the best, I love all your posts and inspiration.

I hope everything is good with you.

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I'm planning on starting a new thread in Recovery forum, too...and would appreciate you keeping your eyes peeled for it. I'd value your input very much.




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Oh, pooh..

I don't visit the Recovery Forum...
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Shoot! I don't either...I stick...I'm good at it and I stick to this one!

I'm like the goo that you throw on the wall and it walks down! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Then, b/c it was cool...you do it again! LOL

HAppy Granddaughter's B-day! yeap...you sure are lucky! one day, I'll be lucky in your shoes! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Spoil her and send her home! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I don't think you will be TOOOOOOOO tired after the event! LMAO


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I stick...I'm good at it and I stick to this one!


That's probably what's true of me, too, Rin...LOL....

I'm the one that's probably next in the grandchild dept.; cept my young men aren't even thinking about the "C" word, COMMITTMENT...

You've got a LOOOOONG WAY to go. I HOPE!!


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You've got a LOOOOONG WAY to go. I HOPE!!

LOL...I BETTER OR they will be MORE THAN GROUNDED!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I hope so tooo!!

Guess I COULD branch out for LA!!! I would go there from time to time and check on AmI, but it got depressing...for me...my stuff...


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LA, glad to see you hanging in here. I'm keeping an eye out for your thread.

Do you ever go over to SoCal? We got invited to a firend's timeshare down there the week between Christmas and New Year's. Although sounds like you have your hands full right now!

Rin, I love how you post 5 things that you're grateful for! LA, your grandbaby's 1st would count for one of those, right?

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Update on family...

OS has his car back as of this past Tuesday. Case is settled...out of pocket...$2000. Options were...city auctioning off car or bank doing so...this was the less of the all evils, IMHO.

Now comes the next level of getting this city ordinance before the state supreme court. I thought I'd be jumping all over it right now...waiting only for OS to drive off the impound lot.

Instead, I'm procrastinating. How 'bout that? LOL.

I don't believe we would have received the car back at all had it not been for diamondsj here on MB. My deepest thanks, and those of my family, to her and hers...what a great heart, clear mind and generous soul.

LG...the fight will continue. Any peptalks you got to get my juices flowing again will be welcomed.

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And I wanted to ask Mimi, AmI, EO, jayne, Rin, mvg, GC...anybody else if they were offended by a poster calling us a group, soulspeakers group...because I was and I let the moderator know. We said we understood one another...which I took to mean for me, mutual intent...what we're all here for. The soulspeakers part wasn't exclusionary in my book...said we had to strive first to understand, then be understood.

Not gibberish, psychobabble...belief in mutual intent on MB. All in this together...and yes, we will be misunderstood...no control over that...and we will make mistakes, amend and learn more.

And EO...on my permanent gratitude list...I have been forgiven so much in my life...maybe that's why I see in others greatness...for you all have forgiven so much...and still, you respect, strive to understand...we are living in grace.

I'm missing BR...and replaying her words in my head. Keeps the ripples going for me.

Btw, OS signed up for college...has two classes beginning this month...nowhere close to offing himself...which is the main reason I think we don't...because we don't really fail our lives...we live them.

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Hi LA,

Hope your holidays were great! I didn't even see the post calling us a "group". Of course I only sporadically read. It still causes me a lot of pain to read here some days.

I did see a sig line mocking us but I choose to take anything that particular poster says with a grain of salt.

Glad to see things are working out with your son. I hope you are doing well. Life on this end is pretty terrific. I'm afraid to say it too much b/c right before d-day (the original, I had so many!!!) I had just told my dad that for the first time in years life was really good and stress free. Not a week later the bomb dropped!! So now I'm afraid of jinxing myself. Not very rational I know...

So... any new years resolutions?

I have the stereotypical ones. But they all fall under the theme of taking care of myself. So for now, I've set a strict budget, started a exercise routine and keeping track of calories and ounces of water I'm drinking per day. And I'm trying to declutter my house and life. This is the year I really take control of my life and get rid of unnecessary stresses. All of those things cause me stress, so I'm doing something about them!!!

How about you?

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(((Dazey))),

Seeing your name always lifts my heart!

I totally understand the jinx factor...really shows how our brains work...linking the result to our own actions/thoughts...no wonder we think we control outcomes, eh?

I'm gonna celebrate with you that your life is terrific right now...won't jinx you in any way...right now is right now.

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I've had a hard time comparing again, my right now with my previous nows...lol.

Helped me to say that to ya.

No new year's resolutions...and doing much what you are doing...I got a pedometer for Christmas...(counts steps, not calories...but close)...upping my water intake...and my time in the water, working out...I did a lot of decluttering last year and will continue...I want to get back to shining my sink again...I've let my resentment dictate not doing more than my DH these past few months...even petty stuff...and now he has no clean clothes.

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

So my new year's resolution is to get off the playground and play grown up again...I liked me better when...

Here's to us both processing our stresses better...including not sweating the small stuff...just the toxins.

I appreciate you.

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Hey LA! I've wondered how you've been with all that was going on. Glad to hear things are sorta settled even tho it bites.

And I wanted to ask Mimi, AmI, EO, jayne, Rin, mvg, GC...anybody else if they were offended by a poster calling us a group, soulspeakers group...because I was and I let the moderator know. We said we understood one another...which I took to mean for me, mutual intent...what we're all here for. The soulspeakers part wasn't exclusionary in my book...said we had to strive first to understand, then be understood.

I didn't see that post. I agree with YOUR understanding. I hope this wasn't 'the problem' poster we've experienced in the past few months...or maybe I do, at least you know what to expect. Truthfully tho, as muddled as my mind is at times I probably wouldn't have caught it. DUH.

Glad to see ya! YOU gotta check out the Goddesses thread if you need a boost!


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GREAT news on your DS getting the car back! Congrats!! Pretty steep price, but at least it's over with.

Such an obscure law, just kind of snuck in the back door .... it really seems very unfair. And your DS was one of the lucky ones, he got his car back. There are probably a lot of people who haven't been that fortunate, didn't have a secret diamond to help them out ..... So my vote is to keep up the crusade. It's easy to vote that way when it doesn't mean adding drama to my own plate, though. So maybe I'll change my vote to: keep up the crusade when it doesn't interfere with more important things like your family and your M -- the things that need to take priority.

And you've got big priorities, with that new grandbaby on the way! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />


As far as the grouping thing -- I consider most of the people who have posted to this thread to be pretty good company. So I don't mind at all being associated with wise, compassionate, loving people who have been incredibly helpful to countless numbers of people around here. Just like I wouldn't mind being called an MB'er ... I'm pretty proud of being associated with this board, too.

The part that did offend me was the warning. Telling a new member to "be wary" of this "group". At a time when there was already so much drama around here about trolls and who should be listened to or not. I was very offended that a new member was warned away from a group of people including some very long term, established, credible board members -- who just happened to post on the same harmless thread.

That was prety offensive. And a little eye-opening. I guess I tend to get a little bit of a polyanna mindset sometimes, so maybe the occasional reality slap is inevitable. Who knows. I haven't been around here much recently, though. Seems like sometimes there gets to be a lot of that reality slapping going around, and those slaps sting even when they aren't aimed at me.


So, I guess I've been finding other thigns to do. Such as .... Did you know that there is a suburb of Boston called "Worchester" that is pronounced "Wooster"? Rhymes with "rooster". Add a Boston accent and it's really more like "Woostah". Even the people on the news pronounce it that way. Several of us in my class went there for dinner last night, to a pub called O'Conners .... amazing place with great food and all kinds of character. Walls covered with crazy signs and beer taps and everything else you could imagine, and at least half of the waitstaff were really Irish -- or at least had very convincing Irish accents.

From now on, I'll be pronouncing that sauce "Woostah"-shire sauce. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

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And I wanted to ask Mimi, AmI, EO, jayne, Rin, mvg, GC...anybody else if they were offended by a poster calling us a group, soulspeakers group...because I was and I let the moderator know. We said we understood one another...

LA, I would never be offended by someone grouping me with you! I feel honored. Truly.

*hugs*

(I know what you mean though. Yea, I understood you...)


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When I've had a bad day at work, H says "Don't worry, everyone in this house loves you!"

LA... everyone in *this* house loves you.

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LA, I would never be offended by someone grouping me with you! I feel honored. Truly.
I wanted to add my name to the list of those who feel honored.

You Matter... to many.

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"And I wanted to ask Mimi, AmI, EO, jayne, Rin, mvg, GC...anybody else if they were offended by a poster calling us a group, soulspeakers group..."

That would be a statement about the person who made the comment, right? To be honest, I spend most of my MB time over on the EN board. I follow a thread over here mostly if I see familiar names on it, like Rin, AmI, INAH, SadMo. I don't feel offended, but whether I was offended or not that day may reflect my experience that day more. I am working on that, like you said, that's why we have boundaries, so we're not living by our feelings. Maybe if I knew who said it, and it was someone that I had different expectations of, then I'd be more offended.

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The part that did offend me was the warning. Telling a new member to "be wary" of this "group". At a time when there was already so much drama around here about trolls and who should be listened to or not. I was very offended that a new member was warned away

Yes, I find that highly offensive. If someone doesn't like what I say, or how I say it, then tell me. If I find the criticism valid, I can work on that. But to warn someone off from us as a group, that makes me sad to hear that.


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And I wanted to ask Mimi, AmI, EO, jayne, Rin, mvg, GC...anybody else if they were offended by a poster calling us a group, soulspeakers group...because I was and I let the moderator know. We said we understood one another...which I took to mean for me, mutual intent...what we're all here for. The soulspeakers part wasn't exclusionary in my book...said we had to strive first to understand, then be understood.


I'm trying to move past NEGATIVITY in all aspects of my life...trying to find the POSITIVE in EVERYONE and EVERYTHING...maybe there was something I needed to learn from that...


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LA,

I was sorry to read of your mother's passing.

I was catching up on reading posts and found what you're going through. I will say a prayer for you, that you will find peace in this difficult time.

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