I tried to save my marriage, made it through the horrible pain, have made great strides towards recovery, and now I just want the divorce over with. However, WH is just being unreasonable and continues to drag things out. My court date is at the end of November and I'm not confident that anything will be settled then.

What really bugs me is that in the last 3 weeks I have been eating alone in a restaurant 2 times. Both times very attractive men came over to flirt with me. They were both very different than what I'm nornally attracted to and I found myself wanting to get to know them better. I want to go on dates and meet interesting new people. However, I don't feel like I can date until my divorce is final, and it's looking like that is going to be a long time away.

The second guy actually gave me HIS phone# and told me to call him when my divorce is final which I thought was neat. Can you tell that I'm liking the attention?

Actually, NOvember isn't that far away. I think it's great you're going out and men are flirting with you. It makes a nice transition to dating. When November comes, you'll be in a good spot because some of your needs are being met. For example, Admiration and Conversation. You'll also have had practice flirting. All of which is bound reduce the chances you'll fall for the first one who comes along.

Besides, think of all the phone numbers you'll have by November. Better start writing notes on the back of them to remember who is who.

You're right. I've got a sneaky suspicion this is God's way of helping slow me down so that I can see things more clearly. I have never dated much, and WH never gave me much attention. Now at 38, I look better than I did in my 20's. I just have no patience. Especially when it makes no sense that WH is dragging things out when he's the one that wanted a D.

It is great that you are receiving the admiration and attention. Also, remember, that you should wait awhile before you actually start dating. I started dating a guy about 2 years after the divorce. I am more aware of RED flags now, and that guy didn't last that long. I have dated 3 men and now I am dating a very nice guy after 4 years divorced. We have been dating since October and we are very happy together. We are taking it very slow and easy. I don't want to get into a relationship and jump into a marriage. I have expressed to him that there may be no marriage for me at all.

Take your time and enjoy the attention and you say that you look better now at 38 then you did at 20, is because you are much more mature and are looking at guys in a different way. Yes, as we mature we take better care of our skin and our hair. We get our hair done at the salon, as for myself I am now getting highlights and lowlights and my hair looks terrific. I have gotten my hair layered somewhat and when it is curled it looks terrific. We take more pride in ourselves and take special attention to our skin. Good for you and enjoy the looks and flirts....you are one wonderful gal. Blessings.