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Do any of the military DoD people know what exposure would do as far as a security clearance?
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VowsRSacred/ VRS
Me 44 WH 46
dd Mar 7 06
Dday 2 Jan 19 07 EA and PA
DD 19
DS 10
DS 7
DD 4
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Not military but I am a DoD contractor.
Might affect future ability to get like a TS/SCI or SSBI, but it shouldn't cause an existing one to be revoked.
Exposure might the best thing in fact. See, one of the questions they ask you is 'is there anything else we need to know that is not on the form?'. The goal of this is to find out if anyone can blackmail you for anything and maybe get you to divulge classified information. So like if someone is having an affair, the bad guys might find out and threaten to expose unless you play ball.
Hope this helps. You might get more results on the GQ2 board; there are a number of former military folks there.
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AKA
VowsRSacred/ VRS
Me 44 WH 46
dd Mar 7 06
Dday 2 Jan 19 07 EA and PA
DD 19
DS 10
DS 7
DD 4
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Hey Bitbucket...my husband is a DOD contractor in Iraq...just found out he was havng a EA w/ another contractor...he is coming home in Dec..Can you give any advice on what I should do? I don't even know how to act around him....I feel very lost and confused....
God Bless
A
"If God brings you to it, He will get you through it."
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Yes, it can be used against you, just as everything else in your life can be used against you. Your best option is exposure. Trying to hide it and having an investigator find out on their own would be worse.
One of my friends was denied a clearance over a year ago because he was in the middle of a divorce. He had an affair that resulting in OW getting preganent. BS left and filed for divorce. He stayed with OW, but they did not get married. He never had a clearance before. The reason stated for denying the clearance was that he had an unstable lifestyle. He had other issues in his past that were probably contributing factors in the decision. He also get hit will all of the debt associated with ugly divorces. I've seen the lack of financial stability (unpaid debts that the individual is not trying to resolve) used as a reason for denying clearances more than anything else. BS did get a clearance during the same time frame, but after the divorce was finalized a few months later (she had a clearance previously).
My guess is that if there is a list of reasons for denying a clearance, what ever is at the top of that list will be used as the reason for denying a clearance.
My DDay was 3 weeks ago while I was in Iraq. Being a contractor, I was able to leave early to attempt to recover M. I feel sorry for the military in the same situation as they are rarely able to leave. I went ahead with exposure while I was in Iraq. I'm currently 2 weeks into plan A. A reinvestigation for my clearance is coming up soon. I'm more worried about getting through recovery and saving M than how this will affect my clearance.
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hey ML, should I tell my WH about the above and how it could affect his job with what he has done? Or should I just keep it "tucked in my back pocket" for now? and not let him in on this "secret info"? He is a DOD contractor and just confessed to an EA...I am sure I can cause a "stir" if I call down at headquarters....just not sure what i should do w/ this info
God Bless
A
"If God brings you to it, He will get you through it."
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This is not secret information. I've heard of a couple of officers that were asked to retire early because of an A. I know of only one that ended up with a derog placed against his clearance. That individual had a C with OW and the BS aggressively pursued the matter with the military to ensure that something was done.
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I say expose!
BUT, let me give you my senerio...
I found out that my W was having an EA while I was deployed, and still after I reurned, up until I exposed everything last week. They happened to see my PI watching them, but when WW asked me about it, I let her believe that it was NCIS. So now they've stopped all communication with each other out of fear that he is about to get slammed.
Here in NC there are a couple of old laws (i.e. Alienation of Affection and Criminal Conversation) that allow me seek monitary damages from him for pursuing her, and having sex with her.
I have a mountain of evidence of the A, and can prove "opportunity and inclination." They only thing that I can't really prove is that they actually had sex.
Should I confont him and tell him that I won't go to his command and NCIS if he gives me a written statement saying that he did in fact have sex with her? And then, keep my word about not going to his command, but use it against him in a civil suit? I have spent A LOT of money on the PI and the best lawyer in the county, and I need to recoup that money...
BS (me) 29
WW 28
M 10 yrs
EA/PA 3 mo (while I was deployed and after)
D-day 2 Feb 07
NC 1 Mar 07
K - D9, D7, S2
SEMPER FI,
Cory
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I wish I had exposed. Since I didn't, they carried on their affair and it went physical. H confessed to me in Jan and quit his job so he could avoid temptation to be with the [email]tr@mp.[/email]
AKA
VowsRSacred/ VRS
Me 44 WH 46
dd Mar 7 06
Dday 2 Jan 19 07 EA and PA
DD 19
DS 10
DS 7
DD 4
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