Hi mkeverydaycnt,
“so, your whole contribution to this discussion is to question the ethics as to what time of day a person is replying and if they are taking time away from their work to do so.
wow, that is very deep insight on your part.”
No, that was not my attempted contribution to this discussion. Your comment struck me as a smart-alecky one, but because I don’t know you from the dirt on my shoe, (at least I hope that’s dirt on my shoe...), I’ll try to answer your question sincerely.
Let’s face it; we’re not dealing with math or physics here where laws and formulas prove all. We’re talking about what each person believes is ‘right’ given their own relationship dynamics, psychology and unlimited situational variables. So, while it’s obvious, to me, that exposure is always the ‘right’ thing to do (even years after NC), it’s also obvious, to me, that in 1 in 10 (or 100 or 1000 or X) situations there could be some unforeseen, unique variable(s) that makes exposure impractical or impossible in that specific case. There is no absolute here, no matter what even the good Dr’s opinion is.
Have you ever been in a meeting mkeverydaycnt where some topic becomes heated and before you know it the agenda is out the window and after a few iterations people start repeating their points from 10 minutes before? Nothing moves forward. Finally, somebody speaks up and suggests, “Hey, can we parking lot this topic?, or “Hey, is this discussion still relevant to the project we’re talking about?” – that’s the person I was trying to be. The person that doesn’t have anything new or earth shattering to add, but tries to move the meeting along or end it.
Regards,
YS
