My wife had an EA with a much older man. She is 37 he is 63. My wife works for a bank and the OM workes for a local auto dealership. He is in the bank everyday dropping of loan papers, bring deposits for the dealership, and doing his personal banking. She claimes there was no physical attraction to him, but admitted that she felt the need to talk him. It started out inocent enough but grew to a EA. It started out as a few phone calls a week, to several phone calls a day spending hours a day talking. She told me it felt like she was talking to her father(She did not grow up with a father). She could unload all her problems on him and he would consol her. She felt so good after talking to him. it eventually lead to him inviting her to meet him at the dealership after hours. Then ha asked her to come to his house because he and his wife had just had it remodeled and wanted her to see it. My wife claimed she didn't feel anything wrong with it, because we was "just friends".I had felt something was wrong in our marriage, and had asked her about it( are you having an affair, are you talking to someone). Of course she denied it. A couple weeks ago I found our cell phone records on the internet and got cheecking into her phone and was totally shocked by what I saw. I confronted her with what I had found out. She then confessed to talking to him. I later found out from friends that she that when i was working evenings she was dropping our daughter off for hours. I confronted her about that and then she confessed to meeting him. She denied any sexual contact( which i believe). She told the OM that she could not talk to him anymore, except business at work. We have been working on rebuilding the trust, and our relation ship.
Well yesterday I found out that he has been calling her at work. He is making excuses to talk to her. calling and asking for her, then asking her stupid questions that any one else in the bank could answer. I asked her about it and at first, once again she denied it but when I told her I had proof, she said confirmed it. What should I do? HELP. She has to deal with him everyday.
