Why are you threatening him? Does this characterize your past interactions?
I've done everything during Plan A & B. Met his Ens during plan A. He told MC and his IC, the A was over.
I don't usually throw threats casually unless I mean it. He knows it. It shook the heck out of him.
Went dark yesterday and last night. WH didn't even call to see if I was OK. Came home this AM. Surprisingly, he opened the front door and welcomed me home. Didn't ask my whereabouts. Expected it. All he said was he wasn't quite sure if I were going to come home today or how long I'd be gone. Hmmmmm...
It was silent. He offered coffee. I poured myself a cup and he followed. He asked if he could talk to me for a couple of minutes. I said sure. By the way, I wrote him a letter letting him know how I felt about his reaction to my threat. I wrote:
"Dearest.....:
It is a very sad realization that the images of your car & professional career being destroyed, & the possibility of losing your job left you with a more powerful impact than the reality of watching with your own eyes the pain and suffering your A and continued lies have affected us and caused the destructrion of our M.
I agree with you. How the images hit you is just as powerful in the message it conveyed. For me, your reaction left a very powerful message. I feel the only way you had come to realize the destruction your A and continued lies have caused was the realization that your A could ultimately destroy you, your professional image and career along with the respect of your colleagues and employer. This is very sad. I am deeply hurt that it had come to this point for you to finally "maybe" realize what your A has done to us and our M because it would cost you everything you have every worked for.
I came across these cards you've given me. I treasured each one. I got through a few, but it became too painful. I'll leave it up to you what you would like to do w/them. Perhaps they will give you some good memories of what we had, how it used to be and how we/you cherised our relationship and embraced of what "could have been" our future. With love...."
Here's the talk:
WH: I read your letter and each of the cards.....It made me cry. I looked back on how we got to this. Our communication broke down.(fog talk)
Me: Yes. It's hard to communicate when you've been communicating secretly in your A.
WH: What I wrote seemed different then.
Me: Yes, your A changed that.
WH: I'm sorry for what I've done.
Me: But that's the same thing you said on the day you told me about your A. Tell me something different.
WH: I know it probably doesn't matter what I do and say because you won't believe me.
Me: That's true. So what can you do that will be different?
WH:(long pause) It won't matter at this point...
Me: Well, two days ago you said you would call the OW in front of me to tell her that your A is over.
WH: Yeah...
Me: I thin action speaks louder than words. Are you ready to follow through?
WH: (long pause). Yeah I told you I will and I would do that.
Me: Well, now would be a good opportunity. There's your phone.
WH: (seemingly apprehensive, but gets up to retrieve his cell & starts dialing. I asked if he could turn on the speaker. He did. The OP's voice mail comes on, then the tone, then WH presses 1 to record)
Hi.... this is...... (seemed stressed) I'm calling to tell you that it's over....I've done crappy things to a lot of people.....I'm sorry but you need to move on. We all need to move on...I'm going to move on....So you need to move on....Bye...."
OK, folks, I'm also thinking that WH could very called the OP to warn her that he may be forced to call her to tell her that just to pacify me. But then again, what sick OW would allow to put herself through that?
WH looked distressed. I can see it took a lot for him to do that in front of me. I thanked him. But he was also pissed. I expected. WH heads for the shower. Five minutes later, his cell rings while he's in the shower. Picked it up, no caller ID w/no message. Had a feeling it was her.
Gut feeling tells me that WH warned OW he would be making the call. Then he would call her to suck up to her and tell her he had to do it just so I would get off his back. His way of pacifying the OW. I expect that H will call the OW to apologize.
Is this a start of a very shakey second round recovery? I expect that he will continue to sneak.
