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I have been thinking of moving out of the home that H and I purchased at the begining of all our troubles. Reason being that I can't afford the payment on my own. Plus H is thinking of reconciling, but he will NEVER live in that home again.(as it is he will not go into the home)
He has been living in an apartment complex that has appartments available for me to rent. I am hoping that being close but not in the same home may be easier for us to see eachother and be together as a family without or old setting of the home. Fresh clean start to a new M and R.
Any thoughts?
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Personally, I would NOT move from your home. You said your husband worked hard for it, and your children need their home. It is too early to make such big decisions.
I would talk to your husband and see if he is willing to get some counseling together and start all over. The house has nothing to do with your troubles.
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Well in his eyes the house is our trouble, at least a large part of it. My EA started the day we got keys to the home. All of our fights and negative things happened in that home. We do own another property which is being rented and if all goes well we should be able to move back into that home in about 8 months. He will not go to any thing that resembles counciling. at all.
If we D, the home is the only thing I would have so I plan on renting and puting it up for sale. The good thing is that the market in my area is slow so it may take longer than 1 yr to sell. that gives us time to figure things out. And I would pull of the market if D is what comes of all of this.
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Of course you know that the house has nothing to do with things. But he feels that way.
I made a HUGE mistake years ago by selling a home that I loved because of bad memories. At the time it felt right, but I've always regretted it.
We always suggest to wait to make any big life changes. Would it be possible to tell him that you love the house and are very grateful for his hard work to purchase it?
Then I would take it slow, and spend time just like you did when you dated.
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