Basically I'm trying to figure out how to be happy. I don't like the way my husband acts sometimes and if I try to talk to him about it, he says if you aren't happy divorce me. Once I said okay, he insisted I leave. For the most part we get along, probably 90% of the time. That 10% we don't is really bad. It's becoming more and more frequent too. He is insistent his way is the only way and if I protest, he starts yelling or he'll let it go, but if later it turns out his way was better...he rants and raves, yelling and screaming about how he knew and allowed me to screw things up. If he has a bad morning (wakes up from the baby crying), then everyone has a bad morning because he stomps, yells, revs the truck, etc. We have a great family, us and two kids, nice house and boat, and we make a great picture. The kids are happy, they're kind of young, but they'll get big enough to see his fits soon and then what? Nothing is his fault and he is so unreasonable if you disagree with him. He won't talk about this and I don't know how much longer I can take it. What do I do? There has to be something to calm him, to drop the level of his rage. He doesn't think the things he says matter, but I remember them and they hurt. I want us to work out, and not because I desperately need him, but because of our children. I couldn't provide them this kind of house. I would have to go to work, they would be raised differently and I don't want that. I want my family together. I want to like my husband, but as much as it upsets me I don't. Yes I told him that too and he said...leave, divorce him...he just didn't want to hear it. I wanted to leave, but had no where to go. What I don't want to happen is to hate him and end up planning to leave. He'll be miserable if I really left...I did it before, years ago. I need to make him calm down without directly talking to him, or him knowing. God help me!