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I have a male friend who is going through a divorce. His wife is having an affair. Next month his divorce should be final next month.

My problem is his flirting with me. When he does it I just ignore him.

I have been part of his support system.

I just told him recently about my WH. We don't talk about my stich only about his.

I don't know how to handle this. His just a friend that's all he could ever be.

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Well, advice just given to me was this. End it now. You're married. Focus on the marriage. Take care of yourself but avoid anything that will distract you from the prize!

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Marflow, you have got to remove yourself from his support system.

You are working on your marriage using the MB principles are you not?

Remove yourself because if this friend has any chance to reconcile with his W, even tho the D is almost final, the relationship, no matter what form it takes, is a hindrance to that.

As for the flirting, why ignore it? If you are ignoring it then it must make you uncomfortable yes? Stand up for yourself! Tell him you do not appreciate it or at least tell him that his behaviour makes you uncomfortable. That gives you reason to remove yourself from his support system and I would think he would understand that.


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I just told him recently about my WH.

So he didn't mind going after a married woman?
Please tell him his behavior = that of his WW.


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