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I'm so confused about the situation I'm in right now and I feel like I will never understand what happened. My husband and I have been together for 3 1/2 years and married for a little over a year and one day about 2 months ago he came home and just said he was done, that he no longer was in love with me and that i never helped him with anything, by that he meant financially because a few months earlier i was laid off so money was tight.He moved all his stuff out the next week and moved in with a friend for 3 weeks and then got his own place, we had spoke on and off during those 3 weeks but the night he moved into his new place he called me and wanted me to help him unpack, so of course i did and i tried to ignore him the whole time untik he finally grabbed me and said Its wierd not having you around, he held me for the longest time, I ended up staying at his place for 3 days and the day he told me to go home he called me 2 hours later and said he missed me and wated me to come back, so i did, we were ok for about a week then he snapped again and said he couldnt do it that he wasnt "in" love with me and he just could never be with me again, so i stopped talking to him and 2 days later he sent me a text saying he needed help at first i didnt respond but i finally did to have him say he was addicted to OxyCottin (which was perscribed to him for a back injury)I went staright to his house to find him laying on the floor, drunk and high out of his mind, he started balling his eyes out to me saying he was so scared and he didnt know what to do, he said He had to lose me to realize what i meant to him and that he couldnt even look at me because he knew how bad he had hurt me, he just kept saying sorry over and over, he said it scared him that i loved him so much cause no one ever had and that he would never be good enough for me. I took him out of his place and back to mine, i didnt want him to be around anything else. I watched him go thru withdrawls for 2 days and then for about a week we were doing ok, he took me to dinner to a bseball game, he started saying he loved me again and then the weekend came and we decided to do our own thing so we did and when on sunday no one had heard from him i got really worried, he was supposed to show up at a friends and he never did, so of course i thought the worst and drove to his house. His car was there the lights were on but no answer, i went back and forth all day and knocked on the door and banged on the windows, i finally called the police and still no answer ( he had been telling me that he was trying to drink himself to death) finally at around 5 he opened the garage, all he did was scream and yell and say i was some Psycho b*tch and that he couldnt do it anymore that i got worried when i didnt hear from him every few hours and that i had to know where he was all the time and that i would never change, so i told him i wanted my stuff and i went to open the door but it was locked, and then he told me there was some other girl inside, so i left and that was a week ago today. During this week he had spoke to my parents, he owes them money for a car loan, and told them he was never going to speak to me again and that he was never ever going to be with me, he was going to get divorce papers and that we were over, He also told my parents that that girl wasnt a girlfriend. I'm just so worried cause all he does is drink and go to bars all the time, he doesnt know anyone cause he is not from this area. I just dont understand how he can just be gone.....

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and he hasnt spoke to me or tried to contact me since...


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Wow! Ok, I recommend you post on another board here.....I recommend Emotional Needs or General Questions II. There is not a lot of traffic here.

You are dealing with addiction issues and, probably, an affair. The affair, if it exists, is sort of another kind of addiction. I bet that girl wasn't 'not a girlfriend'.


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