Started plan b on sunday.

i got home from church he was there, we talked same fog babble. gave him the letter. he seemed hurt that i wanted nc with him. My heart is hurting but I know i did the right thing.

What's he hurt about?

Where's your immediate support group? Who knows you gave him the letter?

L.

thanks for the response orchid.

WH hurt because he whats to be able to see and talk to me.

I have alot of people supporting me. It when I'm by myself that I can't handle it.

"Who knows you gave him the letter?"

My Pastor,friends,boss our sons.

I'm sure his IC knows he seen her last night.

I really miss him and I don't know why, it's not like his been around. We have went days without talking before.

Why is this bothering me so much?

"Why is this bothering me so much?"

Hi, I really think this is a question you should be asking yourself. You have a lot of time invested into your M. How do you feel about H? How are the kids handling things? What do they think?

So, why is it bothering you?

I know I don't have any words of wisdom either, but I think the answer we're looking for is always within us.

Rin,

I love my H very much. Our boys are not handling it very well. YS thinks his Dad hate us. OS is being really mean and says he will stay that way until Dad comes home.

I can't get them to understand that its not us its their Dad.

WH says things like I'm not a good Dad or Husband and I never have been. Thats not true. It's like he doesn't see any good in himself.

It's bothering me because I miss him. I guess I got use to the crumbs he dropped. Almost everytime I talked to him or seen him he told me that he loves me and I guess I want to hear that to.

I don't I just feel yucky.

I think that's a shame that your WH feels that way. If you were plan Aing I would suggest you and the boys writing a list of all the positive things that you see in your H, not WH.

Since that's not an option for you, what do you think of enlisting the boys and having them each write a letter explaining how they feel but that they love him and need him. I would think that it would be good therapy for them also.

Perhaps you can write your own and just keep it. I highly recommend journaling. I see own D-days are able the same. I'm sorry for all of the pain and hurt that you have suffered, also, for the boys.

I can say that it gets better. Your days will go up and down...the greatest rollercoaster with all the fear, anxiety, happiness, and everything else. LOL
It does get better...feel free to rant if you want...I'm hear to listen. LOL

I hope that your day improves...thank you for sharing your time with me...I apreciate it!

I did ask the boys to write their Dad a letter. They asked me what they should write. I told them to write what they feel. So far I haven't seen any letters.

You know I appreciate talking to you to. Your stich was one of the first I every read. I never posted because you were getting great advice from the pro's.

Your stich gives me hope some of the things your H has said are the same thing my WH said.

You thought there was 37 days NC I thought there was 21 days NC. When I confronted him he told me I needed to get on with my life. And he was shocked when I gave him the plan B letter. Sometimes I want to wack him in his head.LOL!