Its been awhile since I have posted. I have some questions about what has happened or is happening to me. I went home in June (from Iraq) to see my family. In May I checked my FWW's cell phone (online)records and saw some strange incoming calls, many and almost everyday. Because I am overseas she told me that they were from me. I never call her cell that much from here so I am not sure who they are from. It is possible that my calls get routed to a server before they get sent to her cell.

Anyway when I got home one of the first things I did was to check her cell for incoming calls, that way I could see the actual numbers. Somehow the entire history was deleted, there were no records of incoming calls, no record of outgoing calls no address or phone books. It was almost like the memory on the sim card was completed reset. I asked her how that happened and she said she didnt know. I think I am smart enough to know that sim cards dont just erase by themselves, even if there was a problem with the phone which is highly suspect.

Is it possible that I am just being paranoid (dumb question) or does this smell abit. The affair supposedly ended 2 months before I came here through exposure to her employer and other reasons. They were both fired. That has also significantly contributed to my little journey here (iraq). I dont think that either one of them got complete closure and I have been completely out of the picture for the last 8 months (paying my bills)

Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated.

btw I ask her if she has been in touch with him and she always says "No way" a bit agressively. Instead of just saying no she says things like "there is absolutely no way on earth that i would ever call that man again" Kind of overdoing it, as if she is hiding something.

IMO she is hiding something. I live in Saudi Arabia and yes calls do sometimes get rerouted here but I have no idea whether that happens in the USA. Somehow I doubt that it does there. Sim cards don't erase memory - they replace memory - first in - first out.

I think something is up too. Is there anyway I can gather proof from here? I trusted her the last time and it didnt serve me well.

The only thing I can suggest is to see if your cell company can provide you a detailed record online. Some companies do provide this service for a small additional monthly fee. With the detailed record you can see phone number, time of call, duration, etc.

That will be of limited use to you though because all she will do is go further underground and get a prepaid cellphone if she knows you have done it. If you can get the detailed phone record, do it quietly. If your company does not provide this service, I would email customer service and say you doubt some of the charges on your bill and have them investigate. They should come back to you with a detailed record to prove that you owe for the calls. Of course you know you already do but at least you will have the evidence.

Anything you find out, you need to keep to yourself and do NOT confront your wife while you are still in Iraq. If you confront, she will go underground and start hiding her tracks. The good news is that wayward spouses are stupid in that they think you are too stupid to suspect anything so they generally don't cover their tracks that well.

I pulled this off a consumer rights website:



Check into detailed billing but also register a complaint with your service company for the periods in question and have them give you the detailed bills. Don't tell them you are checking your wife's phone calls. Simply tell them you are not in agreement with the amount of the bill. That is all they need to know to open an investigation and provide you with your records.