Ok so we talked last night, not as much as other things lol. But we talked. He was very apologetic from the moment he walked in the door, he catered to me lol. We just relaxed, no cleaning, no dinner. Baby went to bed at 7 and the rest of the night was us. I let him know that I was upset that he hadn't talked to me first, and that if he feels a certain way he should talk to me. He agreed. I also let him know that if he feels the desire to look at that type of stuff that we would look at the "good stuff" lol. He looks at crappy stuff, can't find the good ones. He agreed. We used to watch it once in awhile. I'm not against it, I'm against hiding it.

So we're better today, we unlocked the computer and he promised to be honest with me. So, thank you all for your help, it was just one of those marriage things I guess lol. That's what happens when you have a baby.

Congrats!!!

ifeel...

this is a really really good moment in your marriage...
hopefully it sets you on a path on a new way to deal with conflict in your marriage....

People live years and years like you have for the past nine months..

resentment upon resentment just building up till it decays everything from within...

you really need to see your dr. about the antidepressents...
is your plan to be on them forever...I mean nine months you may be a good time to re-eval post partum depression which is hormonely driven...and you may even want to see natural substances if that is the case....

I continue to encourage you to break the cycle of sexual intimacy...

your denying you and your husband one of the most powerful connectors there is between two people...

blessings to you and your family..

ARK