here is my story, very new to the borad, akthough i have been visiting the site for quite sometime, being married for 10 years, 2 kids, i am Persian and she is from Belfast(N.Ireland), i found last year she had A, i went mad, and wlaked out, i know it was wrong thing to do, then i discovered this site, i wish now i have found it earlier, anyway, we slod our house and she got her place and i got mine, then i tried Plan A, she was cold and did not want to know, nevertheless i carried on, then the Bomb shell droped i found out she was Pregant with OM child , he is single and 8 years younger than her, she wanted to have termination i begged her not too , she refused and wnet ahead with it, i sttod by her during this time, she did not want her family to find out, i looked after the kids when she went for the OP. I still carried on with my Plan A, still no reponse, i just had enough, last week i put my Plan B into action, she tried to call me and talked to me, i refused, now she is using the kids to blackmail me, things such as what do tell the kids, why you are not coming inside the house etc, i hace expoased her alo to her family, as it turned out they knew about it,
now what i am suppose to do now, any suggestions

Was your plan b letter worded correctly? Did you lay out guidelines for her to return to the marriage?
It is her job to tell the kids why you are not there. From the sound of it they may be too young yet to fully understand it.
Reiterate your boundaries and go from there.
You need to get back into your childrens lives somehow.
I am sure someone will come along that has been in your position.
Hang in there pal, someone should be along!