HT,
do you have your daughter this weekend?
why not take her to Adventure Science Museum?
(I forget if you told us how old she is...)
or the Zoo? any age kid will like that!

if she's not with you this weekend, why not take in a movie? I hear The Illusionist is good.

I'm going to All About Women at the Convention Center, but that might not be your style.(LOL)

have you walked around ALL of The Gaylord Hotel? it's got lots of neat stuff to see (inside waterway, etc.).

have you been to TPAC lately? On Golden Pond is still there thru the weekend.

point is: GET OUT & DO STUFF!!!
(even if it's just to walk around the mall)
you'll feel much better & you'll be glad you did.

my computer at home is fried, so I won't have access till Monday. check in & let me know how you are, ok?

cgw

No wonder you're trying to drink yourself into unconsciousness. "Let's be friends" is just about the most vile thing a WS can say to the BS, especially while divorcing.

The translation of "Let's be friends" is "I want to tell myself you're okay about my destroying your life and destroying our family, so I don't have feel guilty or icky or anything about doing exactly that."

YOU are feeling horrible because she is trying to force this down your throat. Put down the bottle and just Plan B her all the way through the divorce. I guarantee you, you will feel a lot better.


Well, of course. It's got nothing to do with making YOU feel better. She's just trying to reassure herself that what she did wasn't really so bad. "See? He's okay. We're friends!" *blech*


You can't - not as long as you are willing to assume the burden of her guilt so she doesn't have to.

Stop trying to be "friends" with someone who willingly destroyed your family. Use Plan B techniques to protect yourself. You need protection from the WS now more than ever.
Mulan

bump.

HT,
how was your weekend?
cgw

HI....it's been a while since I posted on this thread.....

Everything is going somewhat smoothly. We split time with our Daughter, go to work, live separate lives....essentially do what we are supposed to do. No arguing or checking up on each other. We still talk quite a bit although not as often. She admits she misses me/us but we do not talk about reconciliation. If that happens, it will be a looooong way down the road.

I had my first date with a lady the other night just to get back out in the world. Low key dinner and drinks no SF. It was fun, like riding a bike... but I would rather have had STBX sitting with me.

Here's the wierd part and many of you may not agree. She's had me to her place for dinner a few times and I've had her at mine. We manage to take our daughter out to a restaurant as a family about once a week. We've going as a family to the circus this weekend.

Like WHOA! We're almost acting like a normal family except we don't live together...... and NO, we don't sleep together either.

Don't know if the D will keep going through or what. We may slow it down for a while and see what happens. Only God knows!

HT,
warning: 2x4 coming!

what the heck are you doing dating other women??? you're still married! ...and apparently still in love with your wife! ...and dating her sounds like it's going well, btw. why not just take one day at a time?

would she be open to MC?

cgw

CGW......I don't want to date.

Date = More of a self esteem boost for me. I needed it. It was so easy to get a date that I know It'll be easy if and when the single days come. The bartender,waiter and owner of the restaurant all told me I look like Bruce Boxleitner, I took that as a compliment.

She called me last night at 2;45 a.m. Daughter up all night sick. I took the day off and did the doctor thing since she can't miss work (I own my company so I am flexible). W is coming over tonight after work for pizza and to watch videos with D and I (my weekend).

Just wierd.....

Yes, I realize I am still in love with her but I'm practical. Nothing else may ever happen without D around so I am in self-protection mode.