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Hang in there. I promise you that things will get better.
Have you thought about taking anti-D's?
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Good morning, believer...AmI's on them...
AmI,
Like B said hang in there...YOU ARE DOING WONDERFUL! Can you try to tell us more about how the kids did?
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
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Yeah, sorry, I started to get into more detail about the kids and it got me bawling again .... not good since I'm at work right now. I'll post the details tonight.
I am on AD's .... but have been thinking they might need to be adjusted. But maybe the last couple of days have just been hard ones. I'm also trying to exercise a lot, because I've heard that that's almost as effective as AD's ....
I'm trying to hang in there .... sometimes it gets really, really hard!
(One of the guys here today asked why I'd been going to the eye Dr. so much recently, because I always had my sunglasses on.....)
WH's A: 1/18/06 - ???? D-Days: 3/28, 4/14 (false recovery), 9/5
8/11 -- WH announces that he doesn't love me anymore.
9/5, confirmed A was renewed, PBL & re-exposure which gets him investigated. He refuses to move out and gets blatant with the A.
10/15, “Plan F-U”. Yuck. But it did start some talking.
C w/OW continued until ....?
MC with SH
11/24, WH says he loves me.
Making progress. My own and with us.
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I want to ask if WH leaves notes like that...you know saying thank you?
If you would like to talk I can give you my number also my email address is posted in my bio, should you want it. Just a thought!
Keep your chin up! You're doing a wonderful job! Really...you are!
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
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if you need to take some quiet time for youself -- by all means do it! Or better yet, ask him to leave.
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If you continue to be very sad and unable to work, check with your doc. I found out mine had put me on a very low dosage at first. My doc upped them, and I was A-Okay.
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{{{{{{{{{{{{{AmI}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Oh, you BRAVE, TRUE woman! You did the scariest, most difficult thing...talking to your kids...YOU did it. You just taught them COURAGE...and that we can be courageous and cry, too. You did an O&H statement to your WH...another act of bravery for you. I know you're hurting...and being brave and true, anyway. My hero. You won't have to be pulling Mighty Mouse out of your nose any time soon. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> LA
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AmI, How r u doing? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Hugz, L.
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Ami, I've kinda lost track of everything the last few weeks. Sounds like you're in a rough patch, but B is right and it will get better.
{{{{{AmI}}}}}
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb Neak's Story
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AmI? You okay sweetie?
DId you sleep at a friend's last night? You mentioned posting the details...just concerned about you...
I know that you will make it throught this...you one heck of a strong person...
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Thinking of you, AmI.
Guess I need an AmI fix...shoot me up, 'k?
(Looks like I'm not the only one!)
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Thinking of you, AmI.
Guess I need an AmI fix...shoot me up, 'k?
(Looks like I'm not the only one!)
LA Our 1st admitted 'MB junkie'. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Better answer her soon AmI, LA's bound to go into a downward spiral and go find your WS to give him a piece of her mind. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Watch out!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Btw, we do care, so let us know when you can...ok? Hugz, L.
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I'm worried too. I hope she's doing ok...
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Orchid is needling me.
Yeah, I'm punning. Punning and jonesing.
She knows she'll get her fix when I get mine.
ROFL
Don't make me jones, AmI. You won't like me when I'm crazy.
Wait. You already do.
LA
Hey, Grownup...About worrying...I believe worrying is like praying for what you don't want. What do you think?
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Orchid is needling me.
Yeah, I'm punning. Punning and jonesing.
She knows she'll get her fix when I get mine.
ROFL
Don't make me jones, AmI. You won't like me when I'm crazy.
Wait. You already do.
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Hey, Grownup...About worrying...I believe worrying is like praying for what you don't want. What do you think?
LA Hey LA, I'm not needling you. No needles....I hate needles. LOL!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> The fix is reading and posting back. Relieves some of the internal frustration shared by those posting. Ha! and you all thought I post 'cuz I like to help!?!?? The dark side of the Orchid has emerged. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> Just kidding! I owe a debit of gratitude to this board. More than most know..... LA....u r doing good stuff with your posts....keep up the good work. Ami.... I have 'chores' t/d today and I need to get started.... please post soon so I can go do my work. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Otherwise, I'm gonna ask BrokenOne to fly over here with Nikko and come clean my house. LOL!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> take care, L.
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If BrokenOne and Nikko would fly over...that would really make them flyladies, huh? (Flylady.net) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I believe we're all doing great stuff with our posts...and our lives. I love who you are and what you share...so thank you for the dose of validation. How can you hate needles after being pregnant? My DIL and I were just talking about that...how laughable being stuck is now for all the blood being drawn...how much poking happens that original poking! LOL...I'm gonna be a grandma in December...getting a grandgirl!!! And you have helped me out again, Orchid...'cuz I'm going off to do 15 minutes of cleaning myself...going to do that four times today, separated by reading posts on MB...thanks for the nudge you didn't even know you were giving, huh? LA
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Hey, Grownup...About worrying...I believe worrying is like praying for what you don't want. What do you think? No, I don't feel the same way. This level of worry is just being concerned about someone that you know is in a difficult situation and hoping that things go well for them. Worrying in general about things in my own life is a way of recognizing and evaluating a problem and trying to find the best solution. So, the opposite of what you're saying. At least, that's my take on it. Guess, it's really how you define the word, so a difference of semantics? I'm a practical, problem-solver type anyway -- with an emotional bent.
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Wow, I'm waiting for my fix too...miss her like CRAZY (you know the new song that's out...Do I make you crazy...LOL)
I love that song...LA...remember we were talking about "You Are my Sunshine," well, I think "Crazy" is like that one too... come on they sing "Do I make you Crazy when I'm with you?" .....LMAO
HI, O and GU! Hope you are doing well today!
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Thank you for your response, GU... I wanted to be silly and post "Hey! Grownup says he's BENT!" but I refrained. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> I think you nailed it with the level of worry. I grew up experiencing only two levels...off and on. If we were off worry, then I was being good. On worry was a totality...so in your post, "I'm worried too. I hope she's doing ok..." I heard what I still hear from my mother... "I'm worried about you." Which means I'm doing wrong, something isn't right with me, about me, inside me...oh, crud! Not you, me. I didn't take your post to mean that...just wanted to share in case you had experience mind-numbing worrying in general. You don't. You have levels. Very aware. I'm gonna work on that for myself. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> LA Rin, It's amazing how you will hear songs differently now...the more you change your perspective to not believe what others say all the time...you'll hear the "MAKE" in anything and think, "Hmmm, no one can me..." instead. DH and I still hear old songs and laugh...wow...they were so influential then...and seem really out of touch with reality now. Glad you're dancing, laughing and living fully today, Rin. Good to know! LA
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I'm ok, sorry for going AWOL. Thank you all so much for checking in on me. I really appreciate it, I feel very cared for -- thanks....
My sister came to town and I've been hanging out with her a lot. It helps.
No real change in anything here. I'm still very sad ... having a hard time with all of this. WH isn't being too hateful, pretty much leaving me alone. And at least not breaking into the room at night anymore, so that's good. He even asked permission today to eat some of the lunch I made for the kids (my neice and nephew were with me today, too).
I'm just sad .... it seems like we're past the point of no return. That if WH ever does hit reality, there won't be anything left to go back to. And I'll be a babysitter or occasional weekend entertainment for my kids.
I'm really, really hurting ....
It's helped to have my sister here. I think I need a vacation.....
-AmI.
WH's A: 1/18/06 - ???? D-Days: 3/28, 4/14 (false recovery), 9/5
8/11 -- WH announces that he doesn't love me anymore.
9/5, confirmed A was renewed, PBL & re-exposure which gets him investigated. He refuses to move out and gets blatant with the A.
10/15, “Plan F-U”. Yuck. But it did start some talking.
C w/OW continued until ....?
MC with SH
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