Its been awhile since I have posted here. My wife left me in March because she was so unhappy after 10 yrs of marriage and 2 kids. I found out there was an affair happening.
Its been almost 7 months and I felt really good about my life after going through a 10 week divorce recovery class. I had some set backs and some feel sorry for myself moments but it hasn't been like that for almost 2 months until this past week.
I have to see her 3-4 times a week to exchange the children and football practice and games for the oldest child. I have had several conversations with her and we communicated very well. One problem...I miss her terribly, I started the whole crying throughout the day and I know I still love her deeply...I would take her back in a heartbeat.
Do I feel this way because the divorce isn't final yet? Should I give up and focus only on myself and my children? I pray everyday for God to direct my heart but it seems like I still can't live without her.

Please give me some advice????

btrayd,

Things are kinda slow around here on weekends.

We need to know more about what you've done to end the affair and win back your wife.

First, are you on an anti-depressant? If not, maybe you should see your doctor and see what kind might be appropriate for you. They can help you maintain your emotions on a more even keel until you are better able to cope.

Have you studied the concepts of Plan A and Plan B on this site?

Have you exposed the affair to people who have influence on your wife?

If you have both exposed and done a good Plan A, maybe you should go to a Plan B, where you have absolutely no contact with your wife and all necessary communication about the children is through an intermediary.

The gist of Plan A is that you work on yourself. Figure out what your wife's Emotional Needs are and try to meet those, but work on improving yourself and stopping all lovebusters. You should be getting out, doing things on your own and trying to enjoy life...except for dating other women ('cuz you are still married). Focus on being a great father and having fun with your kids.

Do not beg her or try to hang on to her, because that makes you look very unattractive to her. Don't let her see or know how upset you are.

Someone more expert than I should be along to give you more complete advice. Just hang in there, OK? And, remember that even if the divorce is finalized, there may still be a chance.

If you do a search under my user name you will see my history. I exposed everything and did Plan A and B...failed at both she wants me no longer.