not sure if this would be the right area or not but there's traffic here.

it's been 3 weeks since my wife basically said she isn't in love with me anymore. we've talked about all the issues that were bothering her and even came up with solutions. there is no affair or physical abuse or anything of that nature. she was always concerned about our money situation and felt i was controlling. i never thought i was controlling i thought i was taking care of my wife when i made decisions on my own. big mistake but not something that can't be worked on.

anyways, she now says that she does believe we could work through the problems........but that it won't change her feelings. she still isn't in love with me and feels it would never change. so now last night she went a friends place and we were talking about who gets what and all that kind of stuff. she says she'll be back here again later today and i am hoping there is something i can do or say to help the situation. i really don't want to lose my wife and i an't imagine being without her. i did say to her that given time i truly believe that the love will come back. we've had so many good times and done so many good things together i just annot imagine that there is not even the tiniest little bit of love there anymore.

i put in my msn messenger name this saying "all we need is a little seedling of love......not the whole damn tree" in hopes that she might see it when she logs in. i believe in my heart that if she just stays that it will come back. hard to convince somebody of that though.

if she is completely intent on going to her friends place i have a plan but i am not sure if it's a good one. since i don't know a soul in this place(we just moved here 5 months ago and i work in the home) i feel i would have to go to my fathers place which is about 8 hours away. just to work and stay out of her hair maybe. but then come home in 2 weeks which is our 2 year anniversary. she has my cell number if she decides to call but other than that i would come home on that day and see how things are. maybe it would spark something given the signifigance?

im fresh out of ideas and could really use some good advice here.

I would be sure to make certain there is not another man somewhere in the mix. Are there any men around her best friend's house? I just ask because it is somewhat unusual to move out after only 2 years of marriage, and your problems don't seem that bad.

What is her reason for moving out? I would think she would just keep living with you and file for divorce, unless she has something to hide.

i've beaten that like a dead horse. i thought so too at first but am now convinced there is no other guy. everything just keeps coming back to she thinks we can work out the problems but she doesn't feel like the love will ever come back.

Have you agreed to sit down and do a budget on paper togethor from now on?

I recommend reading some of Dave Ramseys books. He has some great ideas on how to improve a marriage by removing the fear of financial ruin. I can tell you, that the weight of debt and money was crushing my marriage to death. In fact most of the fights I had with my wife were over money. Id doesn't have to stay that way. If your already doing this please forgive my post.