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like you were cheating when dating even though you were not with your ex anymore? I keep feeling that if I leave I will feel this way. That's how I feel in my dreams too. Anytime I dream.. I don't dream of H. I dream of happiness with some other guy. When I dream of H I dream he is cheating. Most of the time I got mad in my dreams an tried to beat thenm up. But now... I get happy catching him because it gives an easy excuse to leave <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
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in short... NO, i did not, do not, feel i am or was cheating when ever i dated someone after my ex. never ever not at all.
the first sf after my ex was kind of wierd, that i will admit, as i had been with my ex almost 10 years but we had no sf the last 2 years of it. but it still felt wierd probaby because it was not with the right person and it was not with someone i loved and cared about... we were just friends, and thot it would be "ok" to fill that need for eachother, but it made me an emotional mess. when it was intimacy with someone i truly cared for and loved, that was completely different...
but be really ready b4 you dive into the dating pool! you have a ways to go there yet i would say...
mlhb
God first, family second, and all else will fall into place.
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I wish I could say something classy and inspirational, but that just wouldn't be (my) style.
Pain heals. Chicks dig scars. Glory... lasts forever.
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Nope.....In my case...I actually thought my EX did me a favor.
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When WH & were together, I often dreamed about him cheating. I'd tell him what I dreamed about and he used to say "I wouldn't do that to you." Well the ba$[censored] did! People may think that dreaming can manifest itself into reality, and boy it sure did. I have also dreamed of things that actually came true weeks later. And I am a believer of such. Maybe, it's my higher power guiding or warning me to do something before it happens.
WH continued to lie and cheat during the 4-5 months of MC. Caught him in the act a few times and then we had our own 9/11 incident where he was escorted by cops to move out.
I'm so much more at peace without him in the house.
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That is so weird- I also dreamt that H cheated on me when we were together. I was sobbing oi my dream and woke up to tears. When H asked me what I dreamt of, I couldn't admit it to him. I was ashamed of myself to even think that H had the potential to do so in my dream. I quickly brushed it aside. Months later, WH DID do it to me.
Looking forward to a new chapter since D was finalized on 4/24/07 from WH.
"I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength." Philippians 4:13
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Oh, the other thing WH (XHTB) used to say when I'd tell him I dreamed about him cheating was that it was just my insecurity. Yeah right! Great cover up for him! Yep, I used to wake up from those dreams sweating and with knots in my stomach.
I think if you dream it enough times, it becomes less of a coincidence. Your higher power is telling you something.
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I had the same dream, but it was days before DD. I told H about it and H said see what happens when you fall asleep on the couch ( not out of anger, but out of exhausion. I felt like H had set me up. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
Kim-notkimmieZ anymore
WH Matt/Zeus-found out about PA 07/02/06- WA child 9/06; haven't heard from him since
ME: doing fine in Baltimore
D-12/05/07
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OMG ready2wait!
Your situation happened exactly as mine went. WH filed for D the day when we agreed to talk about seeing a paralegal to handle our marital agreement. I even made a nice dinner that night. But, the lying, cheating ba$stard wasn't capable of being honest. He had his attorney file that day, 9/11 and he wasn't going to tell me about until I asked him point black. Then he had the audicity to lie again and try to turn the table on me! I wanted to aaarrrhhh him!
So, I hired an attorney-a superb one. Then he still wants to settle this amicably? Wait a second? Do I have stupid written on my forehead? The paralegal which I had made an appointment for us WAS a way to settle amicably. Now, it's going to be costly!
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