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#1745887 09/11/06 02:54 PM
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Hello -

My fiance and I have been together for 4 years and living together for 2, so I hope this is the right place to ask my question.

We want to get married and we want to do it affordably. We've agreed to elope, but even that will cost around 2K. We have some savings, but that's for emergencies. This money needs to come from additional savings. I have 2K on a credit card that I'm paying off and will be done with in a year, if I stay on track.

The thing is that with our bills and expenses, we can probably save 150 or so a month. It's going to take a long time to save what we need and we won't use credit or ask our parents.

I suggested that I get a second job. I found something I could do from home with my computer and phone line in the evenings and/or weekends. They require 20 hours a week minimum and pay 9 dollars an hour, so I could probably bring home 500 a month with that.

Here's the problem - DF recognizes that we need to make more money, but he doesn't like the idea of me working a second job when he can't. He has a more taxing job, plays World of Warcraft, and practices for a band that he's in probably 2 hours a night. I don't want him to quit the band, because it means a lot to him. I think he may replace the World of Warcraft with some time practicing his coding for work, but that's up to him.

Regardless, he doesn't like the idea of me working another job if he isn't working another job, too. He's told me to do what I want, that he recognizes the value of the second job, but I don't feel good about it. Shouldn't he be enthusiastically agreeing? If he isn't, should I not do it?

Thanks.

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No thoughts yet? I'd love any opinions you might have - yea or nay!


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