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Oh no. Just snuck onto my H work email...found out that he may have to go on a 4-6 week business gig in LA. The other woman was in San Fransico. He didn't say anything about this to me. I can't say anything to him because then he will know i was checking...
what am i to do...i don't know if i can handle him flying out there again
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can you go with him?
make surprise visits?
Can he change jobs?
Also, not knowing your story--whether or not you are in recovery or not-- but knowing what I would need if I was in recovery, I would think I would need my WS to not mind if I was checking e-mail accounts, etc. That transparency thing.
BW-me, 29
XH, 29
3 sons-now 6,4,2
Divorce final--Sept. 27, 2006.
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Two children in school cant pull them out for that time. We have had a big period of unemployment so we are so in the hole money wise that i wouldn't be able to make trips out there. Just got this job. Yeah he is not to good on the transparency thing or honesty for that matter. He knows i was checking it, problem is when they know you are checking they find another way to talk to people.
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He knows i was checking it, problem is when they know you are checking they find another way to talk to people. key logger on the computer then? It's okay to snoop.
BW-me, 29
XH, 29
3 sons-now 6,4,2
Divorce final--Sept. 27, 2006.
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he doesnt ever use the home computer and he is in the computer biz, knows how to find it and has many blocks from it...
the whole sitch just sucks
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I am sorry, LT.
What postives you got going for you with him? Is he still a WS? Any NC?
Are you in recovery of any sorts..or rather, what stage are you in all this?
I am about to go to bed, but will check in tomorrow and read up on your story. I am having one of those hard nights, and came here as I usually do because, well, wanted to maybe give something positive to someone else instead of pity-partying by myself. But I've got to gwt some z's.
I'll check back in tomorrow...
Intexas
BW-me, 29
XH, 29
3 sons-now 6,4,2
Divorce final--Sept. 27, 2006.
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