God bless you and may his grace be shed upon you. Just make sure that in everything you do from now on is done for you and your children without concern for the WW. She has chosen her path of self destruction. Just make sure she doesn't drag you and the kids along for the ride.

I know how you feel I couldn't and can't believe that my EX WW did what she did to me and our children all for a loser, lunatic that she would have thought was a [censored] had she been single and met him. Makes no sense and never will and now our son has to grow up seeing his mom every other weekend. She and your WW WILL get it one day and I wonder what her response will be?

MIL talked to WW last night about not paying child support, and WW gave all kinds of reasons why she wasn’t paying. But all the reasons were just an excuse. WW is still saving money for her and OM to get apartment. WW still hopes to get the kids when she does move. That will not happen. I will not let her take them. I will fight even if I have to make her look like sleaze I will. I don’t really want to do that but WW is only concerned with what she wants not what the kids want, and they don’t want anything to do with OM. And I really don’t want them around OM or the crowd that she is hanging out with. None of them have any morals.

I still miss my wife dearly not the person she is today. I wish she would see clearly for just a little while to see what she is doing to all of us. Right now I’ll take what I can get, even if only for a little while.

I’m still nervous about the visit on Wed. I’m already getting anxious. And I still have 2 days left. I hope I can hold it together when she does come over. If she comes over.

God give me the strength to continue.

Need opinion

If WW comes over on Wed. to see the kids for visitation, should we be here? She hasn’t called to tell me see is coming. WW told oldest D that she was going to be here around 4:30. I’m getting tired of her passing messages through the kids. I’ve told her this in the past. If there is something WW wants to do then call ME and tell me, not use the kids as go betweens. What I am thinking of doing is, when she comes over, we won’t be home.

When and if she calls to complain about were we are I’ll tell her this,

I’m sorry WW, you didn’t call and tell me you were coming over. If you’d like, we are at the park and you’re more than welcome to come here and I will leave to give you time. You may bring them home in 1 hour or so.

Need advise.

Yesterday was a bad day for me. I was getting very anxious and my anxiety level was very high. I had to take some medication. It seemed to work but it makes me tired. I was in bed at 9 and that’s all I remember. I woke up at 4 in a cold sweat.

I though I was over this stage.

WW comes over tommorrow. I need advise

well I ended up canceling her visit last night because of the storm, our power when out and I didn't want her driving in that mess. She will be coming over tonight at 5 until 7. She asked if I would not be here when she shows up and I told her no that I will leave when she gets here. I also told her that there will be no more passing messages through the kids. If she has something to say or talk to me about she can talk to me or it isn't important enough for me to listen to or consider.

Well the visit didn't go well. She is filing next month. She is also going to try and take the truck that she is paying for that I have. She tried to take it tonight. As I understand it, it is a asset from the marriage. The judge has to say who gets it in the divorce. The same goes with the house. I need some advise as to what I can do about it all.

Please help

Sadly, you can't do anything. I'm sure the affair will end, they never last. I would tell her that when she files for divorce, the court can decide.

She probably won't file. They seem to be lazy about that.

Your best bet is to continue being a good father, and being strong for your family. I know how hard all of this is, but I promise you, it does get better.

Well she still hasn’t filed for divorce. My truck did get reposed because she didn’t pay the bill like we agreed. I did manage to get the car back that she also got reposed. Unfortunately she didn’t check the oil in it and she did some engine damage. Now I’m car less. I can fix the car but it will take a little time.

Since I stopped her overnight visitation, she now only sees the kids 2 to 4 hours a week by her choice. I told her in front of the kids that she can come over and visit with them anytime as long as she called the day before. That is so I could make sure not to make plans.

WW finally moved out of her friends house with OM and they got there own apartment. I wasn’t happy about that but there isn’t anything that I can do. It is her choices not mine. She will have to deal with the consequences of her choices when she comes out of the fog. If she ever does.

I don’t have that many anxiety attacks much anymore. I still get them sometimes when I see her or talk to her. I’m getting better at controlling my anger when I talk to her. If I could stop the comments about her choices, things would be better. I am a lot better now than I was 4 months ago. I don’t need her anymore now I just want her. That also is changing. Most of the time I want her back, not just for me. There are a lot of reasons why, the kids being the major reason. They need there mother, but even they are getting use to her not being around and not calling when she tells them she will.

I don’t bring up the R talk anymore now all I tell her is the door is still open when she is ready. I say it calmly and without pressure.

The kids are doing well. They wish things were different, and so do I.

All I can do now is wait and hope that she will return. But I’m not stopping my life waiting for the unknown. The kids and I go on day to day like we always have and will continue to do until things change.

I will update at a later date.