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"pursuing" estranged WH
#1746326 09/13/06 03:38 AM
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Is "pursuing" my estranged WH a Plan A type thing? He felt neglected in our marriage and "responded" to an agressive woman who pursued him relentlessly (his words). So now I'm wanting to do the same thing. Is it desperate? Will it backfire? any comments appreciated.

together for 22 years married for 18 years affair discovered April 29/06 husband left June 29/06
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brokeshopaholic #1746327 09/13/06 05:41 AM
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Is "pursuing" my estranged WH a Plan A type thing? He felt neglected in our marriage and "responded" to an agressive woman who pursued him relentlessly (his words). So now I'm wanting to do the same thing. Is it desperate? Will it backfire? any comments appreciated.

He claims to have felt neglected so he had an A with an agressive OW?

Hm.... that's babble and he knows it. He had an A because the selfish side of him wasn't being satisfied. He allowed himself to stray. If he was being neglected, what were you being? Pampered to death? I doubt it.

Take a look again. Go read Givers/Takers along with His Needs/Her Needs.

Seems like your needs are starting to show. Don't think you need to pursue your H if that is really the case, you don't have an H. Because if he was being a real H, he'd be meeting your needs and you would be a partner not a pursuer.

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