Yes, honey you are correct. I am out of OM's league in almost every category. For starters I am not a two timing coward that finds it okay to destroy the lives of others and their children. I don't think it okay to screw around on my wife to be and then lie to her about it (he will be cheating on her just shortly after marriage, bet on it). I don't find it attractive to pursue married women. I believe in my M vows and all that that entails (good and bad). I believe I have choices and that my feelings don't rule me, I rule them. I believe those differences and many others, as you correctly stated, put me out of the OM's league. thank you for the compliment.

Tell her this.

LOL but isnt this a LB?

great line though.

Just got a cll from WW. she said that she had to meet with the principal this morning and in the middle of the whole conversation with our DS, he said:"i want to save mommy and daddy, i want to save my family".

OMG........she sounded so calm relating it to me.

She kept asking about if i ever mentioned anything about us splitting up of coming apart. WTH....cant she see that our DS is no idiot , even at 5 years.

I hate her for doing this to him.

It hurt me deeply.......

I am truly hurt.

Oh God, why do WS do these things w/o thinking about offsprings?

Why destroy the future of a child for selfish pleasures of now, Is the OM, money and high life worth it.

Why kill a child's dream? (just had a good cry)

what should i do for DS?

help with input please.

Then she tells her sister some time ago that this is the biggest mistake that she has ever made in her life (marrying me).

All of a sudden i want to help her end it.

just venting.

Hi, NC! I don't have any words of wisdom but I wanted to let you know that I am thinking about you...hearing you vent...

The only thing I can suggest since I don't know your sitch is to be still...

(((NC007)))

I hope that your day gets better!

Thanks Rindi.........i am going to try and eat now....i am trying to "up" my meals now.

Its the DS that gets to me. How can a WS be so disconnected from her DS feelings?

NC you have to keep your taker locked up.

When Squid was moping like a scorned teenger after OM dropped her when I exposed, she would ALSO remind me how crap I was and reject my every advance.

So I locked up my taker.

Became ABSOLITELY platonic with her. Supportive, loving but no ILY no romance no touching ABSOLUTELY no needfulness.

And I started making sure i was SEXY as heck ! Buffed myself up at the gym. ALWAYS shaved and wearing good cologne. Slept on top of the sheets wearing sexy boxers.

Couple times per week I'd dress to impress and go out without telling her exactly where I was going.

Over six-eight weeks this KILLED her ! She eventually virtually SEDUCED me in a pub near our holiday home as she couldn;t resist any longer ! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Thats true ! And it came about because I locked UP my needfulness: my taker, not because I was on a plate for her.

All the time, bear in mind, I was meeting all the ENs I could : domestic support; being available to her to listen. Also small gifts like chocs and the odd bottle of wine. She actually stuffed flowers in the bin angrily and i said " its my pleasure to buy them for you. What you do with them is your choice".

Investing in ME and locking up my taker worked wonders for us.

Thanks bob. thank you so much.I am really hoping for better.sometimes cant take the battering ....daily battering..i get sometimes.