My H and I have had some very difficult times in the past years and we are trying to mend them all. Because of his A trust is not there and this seems to be affecting everything in my life.
Currently I am making almost twice amount of $ what my H makes working fewer hours, but at really bad times- weekends and nights. This allows me to watch the children during the week, which I sincerely enjoy, not to mention no childcare costs, which saves us thousands a year. But, the two of us are never without kids and we never get time alone.
So he has asked me to change my jobs. I currently have an offer that is about $3000 more a year. Which in essence means that I would be loosing money because it costs about $1000/mo. for childcare. I LOVE being at home with my babies. I don't have to worry about anything with them because I know what is going on with them all the time, because they are at home with me, again, I trust noone. My H should come first, but as you can tell he does not. I am trying really hard to be happy about spending time with my H and the kids as a family, but I am not enthusiastic at all. Any advice on this?

DK,

I have 2 kids and FWW both work during the day. She works parttime while they are in school.

Between Baseball, Soccor and all the extracariculars we barely have time for MC. We squeeze it in when we can.

With that being said be creative. When can you spend time together?

People do get babysitters for their kids. Why can't you get a babysitter during his lunch so you can have a lunch together. He could get a babysitter on the weekends so he can come meet you for lunch. He can do the same at night. You can clear the house of kids one day a week so when hubby comes home it is just you. I use my mom for weekends when we want to spend time together.

You do need to get enthusiastic about spending time with the H though sooner or later.

He has told you that his needs are not being met right now. You don't have to quit you just have to find a creative way to meet them.