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I am just wondering if anyone has found themselves to struggle with trust issues across the board. Of course we don't trust the spouse who betrayed us. Some of us struggle to trust ourselves. But do you struggle to trust others who had nothng to do with it?
I find that I am weary of others well beyond my spouse and those involved in the affair -- the OW, those who found out and enabled it, etc. I am weary of anyone's advice, etc.
Not my biggest issue, but one I am all too aware of.
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the biggest trust issue post-affair is
self-trust
all parties WS/BS/OP lose confidence in their choices
start with the self-doubts & work from there
so, to answer your question
YES ... inability to trust across the board is typical early on in the process
Pep
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BA, I would not trust those who enabled the affair. They have proven that they are not friends to you or your marriage. Those are the kind of people I write off because they betrayed you too.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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When I see people in their cars, talking on their cell phones, I often wonder if they are talking to an affair partner.
Trust is a terrible thing to waste..
SD
Last edited by shattered dreams; 09/17/06 11:08 AM.
BH - me 53, ONS 1979
FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
Last D-Day, Sep. 30, 2003
Last Contact/recovery began 2-26-04
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Oh yes. I think your awareness of all forms of betrayal are heightened. And will remain so for a long while.....
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