I'm not sure on how to go about this but I do know that I need to nip this in the butt. I'll try to be as brief as I can.

My WW and I have moved from Oregon to Arizona in July to start over with our lives. Also financially as well since we were to the point of losing everything we had. Were staying with my dad while we try to get back on our feet.

The issue I'm dealing with is that my wife seems to punish me for us moving here over her not seeing her friends back in Oregon. She says she's just homesick but she really gets this massive attitude and just drops into this shell. I want to be supportive to her feelings but it's difficult for me to do so since it was her friends in Oregon that took her away from her family, causing her to stay out all night etc. Also started 2 EA's.

Since we have been here, we have grown closer. I had already read His Needs, Her Needs and Fall In Love, Stay In Love. She had done so not too long ago which I was not aware of until now, but I had been seeing a difference. We have grown closer, spending time together again, etc.

But I had saw an update she had posted on her MySpace blog to keep her friends in Oregon in the loop I guess to say, which she told me that she had posted an update there. It has left me to question again what's going on.

We work at the same place and carpool to work since it's a good communite. But her post says something on, "One guy I see everyday makes me smile <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> But I don't need it, right? And would seek your approval anyhow. Made a few friends but its not my Portland that I miss the most..."

I only know of one person she could be refering to and it isn't me. I had noticed that our lunch hour that we spend time together on has been getting cut short and she's hanging out with this OP at her desk. I know who he is and he's in the process of pursuing someone else at our work. But from what we have been going through and our progress we have been making, why would she even consider it, let alone need her Oregon friends approval on what she should do. She misses her friends in Oregon because they would pull her out partying almost every night, taking her away from her family.

I do need to address this on the other guy, but how do I handle with her Oregon friends. Do I go with the no contact policy or will time just kill the contact. I just don't want to continue to be punished for her not seeing them.

I'm just surprised that this is starting again, because we have been talking and meeting each others needs, going through the worksheets, etc. So there really should be no looking elsewhere, unless I'm missing something. I'm almost financially ready to find a councelor again, but this still about another 2 weeks out.

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