I know I'm still green behind the ears within this comunity, but while it's all still fresh.. I had a few words of wisdom....

- There is always more to the story that he/she tells you.
- Your WS is also lying to the OM/OW about their situation.
- The feelings you are experiancing are normal. You will feel emotions that you honestly cannot name.
- Revenge will not help, it just further creates problems.
- Your WS probably will start their emotional rollercoaster with "Anger". This will be aimed at you, even though you didn't do it. Let it pass. Do not accept it.
- Follow your gut. If you have a "bad feeling" about something listen to it. Our hearts and bodies tell us things before you know it first hand.
- *ducks the tomatoes* SNOOP. Your WS does NOT deserve privacy. If you know a password or want to check their cell phone logs.. use it! That may be your only way to give proof that it is happening.. they will deny it until the proof is in their face.
- Take care of #1. Do not let the affair control you. You still deserve to be happy and healthy.. and so do your children. You wont want to eat, wont be able to sleep.. Remember you are #1!
- Keep the faith! If you have a higher being.. He/She/It will be your best friend in all of this.
- Journal. It will help you keep the tornado of thoughts and emotions calm enough to survive... you cannot begin to process anything right away because too much runs through your mind. I promise you that!
- Be strong and follow what your heart tells you.
- Have a support system and do not feel the need to discuss it with anyone you feel will not listen to you unbiasly. The ultimate desicion is yours.. do not let your friends/family/co-workers tell you what is right.
- Be prepared with thick skin. The MB comunity will tell you like it is. Try not to take offense they aren't trying to hurt you but help you. There is no reason to get defensive (Trust me, this is firsthand knowledge) The verbal 2x4s may hurt.. but it's the real deal and its important.


[color:"purple"]This community has helped me in more ways then I can ever imagined! Thank you from the bottom of my heart! [/color]