OK so fiance and I have to sell our homes. His was closer to being ready and is really fabulous. He has a pool and bar and theatre, etc. He's getting a tremendous number of viewings. "more than any of our other current listings" according the the agent.

I say "how many of the others are new listings?" (according to the agents, new listings see more action)

I asked "is it usual for a new listing to be seen this much"? Fiance doesn't know.

Now I've p'd on his parade. He was all excited about his place being seen so much. Not as vanity, but more because he is anxious to sell and get out from under the mortgage.

I'm less of a worrier - I assume all will turn out well in the end no matter how we get there.

I feel bad because now I think I stomped on his excitement.

But I am sick watching him get all excited and then be crushed with disappointment when the deal falls through.

There's probably no right or wrong here, but he is driving crazy worrying about how anxious he is getting. I should probably dissasociate from his anxiety? But if I care about him, shouldn't I calm him down? How come it feels like I'm disappointing him rather than sharing in his excitement.

BTW there are no offers, just interested parties. I kind of say wait until they offer...

Do any of you guys or gals get this excited, and how do you feel when your partner says don't get so worked up?

V.

At some point he will get disappointed...but do you want to be the one who does it?

A few coworkers are going through the same thing.
Many buyers are looking, but waiting for the prices to fall thinking that interest rates will only increase. (Rates have, in fact, fallen over recent months.
Sellers are expecting prices they could have gotten 6 months ago. Realtors should know what realistic prices are.

Good point. I don't want to be the one to disappoint him.

He's to the point of making himself ill.

newly,

He is asking a fair price - it is not overpriced. The fact that so many folks are interested proves he is asking a fair price.

He has two showings tonight and a party coming back for a second look. I told him he should have deliberately overlapped the appointments so that it was like an open house with people all anxious about their competition. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Then he would see some offers...

V.

he is making himself ill over the excitement / disappointment of selling his house?

sounds a bit dramatic to me. . . i would be a calming influence, but not disagree with him. . . just say that everyone is a possibility, and that the future is uncertain. .

wiftty

A coworker is building a new house to be completed in December. They are stressing that the old house hasn't yet sold. They have gotten tons of visitors, which is a fantastic sign.
In this market, many visits is good and each visit means that one more realtor knows about the house and thinks highly of it. It only takes one firm offer to sell the house. Think positive.

Bottom line? Houses eventually sell. It takes a certain amount of time to sell a house on average in each market. No use being anxious. It will sell - eventually.

We create the roller coaster effect. The poor house does nothing but be a house.

It still depends on the location. Some cities are dealing with more fluctuation than others. We're looking to sell a house in Virginia within the next year and our realtor advised us to wait until March to list it.

With the economy as it is....there will be plenty of houses to look at and there will be a buyer...just takes time and patience. All you could do is be by his side and say...wait until there is an offer before you get excited. For remember the houses on the market are plentiful right now. So customers have plenty to look at before they make their final deicison. So lets just sit back, enjoy the clean house, the attention of the house and wait for that special buyer. In the meantime...say something like how about a date....and then mention I would love to go.....and that is it....Blessings.