Ok, I have an idea. At counseling, my wife asked the counselor what she could do to help start "feeling" differently toward me. I think my wife really wants to work on her feelings toward, but simply doesn't know how.

I know there are some former WW's that come here. I'm going to see a priest on Friday that's familiar with Harley's principles.

If I ask my wife to visit the site and maybe do some posting to ask some questions as well as read some articles, she won't do it. If I say that the priest thought it was a great idea, she'll do it no doubt.

Is this a good idea at this point?

The short answer? NO! NO! NO!

And this is why. I see from your sig that you are very new to the MB Prinicples. ANd on your Saga, <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> you say you slipped in your PLan A.

Well that is normal. THis is a learning process. ANd you are still a "newbie" and right now it is a safe place for YOU!. TO learn and to grow.

THe posters here including many FWS, will assist you. Now if you give this site to your WW before she is ready, how can anyone help you with a plan. Your safe haven will be compromised. There have been a number of occasions where in a false recovery, the WS came here and used this site to block recovery. And to continue their A. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Once you are further long in the process, then let your wife know aobut this site. NOT now. SHe still has issues to deal with and to fully accept resposnsibility. That is my personal opinion.

Good luck with your recovery!

i agree. i wouldnt do it. even if my wife was recovering. I would probably wait for a good while.

Is it out of desperation of "trying to show her" where she is at or getting FWW to "counsel" her?

tempting but dont do it.

Try waiting.

I too would recommend keeping this to yourself. You would be compromising your playbook. MB is where you keep all of your plays Walt. If you let her see it now she will know all the moves you are going to make and how to block you at every turn. I would recommend keeping this to yourself for now until the two of you are on a more stable footing.
I am in the middle of Plan B and before my WW left to "think about things" we got a couple of "surviving the affair" type books. She knew how I was feeling and many other things that definitely didn't help me along while I was Plan A-ing. The less they know about your strategy the better IMHO. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

THANK YOU ALL!!! That was one of my thoughts too. She's be able to see what and why I'm making the changes I'm making and acting the way I am.

You're right. This is MY place to come to right now.

I don't think she's had any physical contact with the other men in over a year, but has made several phone calls over the past year to them... the most recent in particular.