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Hey, LA .... I was just reading back through my thread and realized that I never even acknowledged your comment about soon becoming a Grandma!!! I meant to tell you then how excited I am for you .... I think your grand-daughter is going to be a very lucky little girl to have such a wise, loving Grandma. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> It sounds like you and our DIL are close, which I think is great. I have wonderful in-laws, too, and am so thankful for them. Congratulations, Grandma. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> -AmI. (Please don't beat me with your fairy wand for sharing your news so publicly .... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> )
WH's A: 1/18/06 - ???? D-Days: 3/28, 4/14 (false recovery), 9/5
8/11 -- WH announces that he doesn't love me anymore.
9/5, confirmed A was renewed, PBL & re-exposure which gets him investigated. He refuses to move out and gets blatant with the A.
10/15, “Plan F-U”. Yuck. But it did start some talking.
C w/OW continued until ....?
MC with SH
11/24, WH says he loves me.
Making progress. My own and with us.
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BUMP... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
Thomas Carlyle
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AmIok,
No LA but I have a request for you regarding your current battle with you WH over the step children.
I too have a beautiful step daughter, 9 yo that I have raised since she was one year old. She is not my SD, she is my daughter and I am daddy to her. The bio father sees her about once per month and only did that because I promoted the relationship for 8 years, drove thousands of miles out of my way to see that it happened and encouraged her to know him. He has no legal rights or visitation and hasn't paid a dime of child support in 8 years. I have spend, I know, over a hundred thousand dollars, clothing, feeding, entertaining, loving, caring for, and so on with this little girl.
My EX WW and I were D on August 31, 2006 after her desire to carry on an illicit affair w/ a maniac, 23 years her senior with a history of problems (sex addict, OCD, therapy, immature, serial cheater amd more) was more important than me, her daughter and our 19 month old son. I received full custody of our son in our court battle but I have only seen my daughter (SD) one time in 3 weeks since that day. She is using her as a weapon against me and the little girl is being emotionally abused because of it.
I need your help with any legal leverage you can gain or find out about regarding your step children.
Thanks for any help.
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Awwwwwww....thank you, AmI!!
Grandma LA...wow, my stomach took a plunge seeing that!
Heehee. The only grandmother I knew lived with us until I was 8...and she was 81 then...so my image is old, old and old!!
LOL
I'm really excited...she's due in December...first born's first born...so thank you for sharing in my blessing and being a blessing...
and for Rin for bumping this marvelous gesture.
Thank you!!!
LA
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No problem, I knew you had missed it! Can't wait to hear what you have to say about this beautiful, baby girl...
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
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Grandma LA...wow, my stomach took a plunge seeing that!
Heehee. The only grandmother I knew lived with us until I was 8...and she was 81 then...so my image is old, old and old!!
LOL
I'm really excited...she's due in December...first born's first born... December -- sounds like a very fun Christmas for Grandma LA!! Have you already started stocking up on cute little Christmas onsies?? Should we get you a cane and a shawl and a rocking chair to make you a proper old Grandma? Nah .... I picture you as one of those cool, young Grandmas .... always with cabinets full of all the treats they're not allowed to have at home .... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> -AmI.
WH's A: 1/18/06 - ???? D-Days: 3/28, 4/14 (false recovery), 9/5
8/11 -- WH announces that he doesn't love me anymore.
9/5, confirmed A was renewed, PBL & re-exposure which gets him investigated. He refuses to move out and gets blatant with the A.
10/15, “Plan F-U”. Yuck. But it did start some talking.
C w/OW continued until ....?
MC with SH
11/24, WH says he loves me.
Making progress. My own and with us.
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Grandma LA,
Congratulations - I have an 11 month old granddaughter and a 2 month old grandson - it is the most amazing experience and I am not 81 - just 47. LOL - I thought being a mom was wonderful - this is even better than I thought. Enjoy her.
Happy Finally
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You nailed it, AmI! That's how we are going to be...and it's joy doubled...because DH said, "I'm not a grandpa" all gruffly...and over time, as been making plans for the grandchildren (plural), as well as changing things around and making a closet just for those goodies.
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I love this so much. One of the things that snapped me out of the fog was realizing, standing in line at Sam's Club next to DH in our horrible time, "Oh, look...he looks like MS when he was that age. Oh, no...what will we do about the grandchildren?" because we were set on divorce.
Double joy everywhere for me.
Thank you, HF!! I believe you. I really will enjoy her...first time with a girl baby...wow.
Feels like your post was an invitation to initiation...forgot that shared experience will open up even more realms of connection, huh?
LA
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LA
Yes - grandma connection is the best - lol - I have one daughter and two sons and was very happy my first grandchild was a girl - she is precious and precosious all at the same time - is into everything already but is such a loving child - the only problem is she is in Florida and I'm in NY - luckily my grandson is only an hour away and he is equally wonderful.
"Oh, no...what will we do about the grandchildren?" because we were set on divorce."
I am divorced and it does make it more difficult - I had those same thoughs as we were divorcing - we went through 3 weddings after our divorce and now the grandchildren. He is still with the ow that he had the affair with and I sometimes cringe when I see her holding my precious grandson but I am getting better. I have someone so special in my life right now and he is such a good surrogate Grandpa - so I am lucky. But I know how much easier it would be if the divorce hadn't happened - but we are making the best of it and my children are all happy - so that's the best I could hope for.
I am sure your granddaughter will bring both you and your husband such joy.
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Hi LA,
WOW! Congratulations! What a thrill!
I have heard that being grandparents is much more fun....just the joys....and no 'parental' responsibilities!
I hope you will tell us all about it when it happens and whether or not this is true.
XBW
DS16 & DS22
PLAN D: finalized!
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