Thought I would drop in. I have felt something calling me back to these boards here recently. I guess I had to take a break as part of the healing process post D. It has been almost a year since it was final.......over a year and a half since d-day.
Life is getting good again. I have found the ability to be happy being alone again. My spiritual life has deepened. My relationships with my family has reached heights I never anticipated.
My father was diagnosed with cancer and had several tumors removed back in the spring. I have spent a lot of time with him since. He and my mom have become my priority. I kinda wonder if I would have focused the same attention on them that I have if I were still married? Hmmmmm.......I hate to say divorce is a blessing, but I am damn sure grateful for the time I have had with them.
I now take the time to really take care of myself like never before. Three months ago I decided that I wanted to run a 5k again. I am now running 22 miles a week. I'm not real fast, but what a blessing to be able to exercise the way I do. I give God praise even when I am hurting during my workouts. Its amazing how that comforts me and enables me to press on. I guess that is a lot like life. Even when you are in the depths of depression from the loss of a marriage, if you can lean on your faith, and take comfort in the knowledge that God will not fail you, and can even improve you through the trials and tribulations.....well then maybe the pain will subside as well.
I am dating again. Nothing heavy though. I am definitely not ready to go out on that limb. But I do treat women better than I think I ever have before. Women frequently comment on how kind and understanding I am. This never happened pre D. Not sure why, other than possibly the fact that I made a commitment to myself that I would be more in tune with the needs of others. I guess the flaming arrow of infidelity that came flying through the window made me realize that I wasnt as in touch with others as what I should be. So I will count that as another blessing.
All in all, I am happy again. I realize how blessed I am and totally appreciate it. I know that when the time is right, I will love someone again. But this time I am not going to make the decision to love again, I will let God make that decision.
I will be hanging around again and trying to help those that are hurting and confused. Many folks save their marriages through this site. Sadly some do not. I will be here to try and help anyone that needs it.

WCNT

Welcome back J.

How's the church group you started coming along???

R U pulling for the Detroit Tigers in the Postseason???

I know we will be blessed to have you back around.

Mr. Wondering

Hi WCNT! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Great to hear from you again. I have just come back to the boards too, after lurking for a while.

My M didn't make it either. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> But I am beginning to see that good things can come from even the most horrible of situations, so I understand what you mean by this:


My relationship with my own parents has blossomed since WXH left. How is your father doing now? I hope he continues to grow strong and recover.


You always seemed like a perfect Gent to me! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Take care.

Alph.

Hi Texas. Welcome back!

NOPE

never heard of you!!!!!!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

you sound good...

this site is not only about saving marriages..
it's really about saving people..

heaps of blessings to you....
ark