Yesterday, seemingly out of nowhere I had a major relapse of the feelings that I had very early on in recovery after a trigger that was not all that out of the ordinary. Wondering if others have had same experiences.

I am more than a year past D-Day and for the most part, I think all would agree that our recovery has been successful and for the most part followed the timeline of other recovering couples. Yesterday while driving a passed the hotel where my FWW used to meet OM. Unfortunately, I cannot avoid this route altogether and have to pass by there fairly regularly. It is always an obvious trigger but yesterday, something different happened. Instead of having some thoughts and being able to quickly divert my attention to something else, I started a slide emotionally that lasted well into the night. The naseua, the obsessive thoughts, all of those feelings that were really strong the first couple of months seemed to be back in full force. Didn't sleep well last night even though as I got home told my FWW about my feelings and she did every thing that she could to comfort me. In many ways, this was somewhat of a breakthrough for our recovery because for the first time we both worked through this little epidsode instead of me having to deal with it and her ignoring it.

I was just wondering if others have had similar relapses. I guess I kind of assumed that the further we got away from D-Day the less intense those feelings would continue to get absent some trauma like a big fight or something.

NT

yes
normal
lessens over time

good job!

pep

Yes just the other day. LOL. Big meltdown on my part. Had quite a little pity party here for myself.

I figured out what triggered my though without even knowing it. I should have shared it on my post.

There is a new TV show called Classmates that I will not be watching.

I am three years past D Day.

From me I have figured out after yesterday there are also outside influences that may effect how the triggers effect you.

For me no sf for a while, I was crazy busy, tired, had a couple little flare ups with the FWW, three year anniversary of D Day fast approaching. All these contributed to making the trigger worse.

So for me if I would have addressed the other stuff then maybe the trigger wouldn't have been so major.

yep! It is all part of recovery. You are still getting it out of your system. Sorry for your pain, friend. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

NTD,

Did you thank your W for what she did? I mean working with you on this trigger, not the A. Please tell her how much it meant to you for her to be there for you when this hit. Let her know this. She will need the feedback and I suspect her response has and will help you in the future.

God Bless,

JL