I got the book SAA and fall in love;stay in love.

Last nite my WW said in a rare comment that she is impressed with how DS is bonding so close to me.

Then this morning someone asked her How did i become so slim (understatement)and why was i looking so dispondent last weekend(when she was out of town).

Of course that caused her to lash into me with a verbal attack on me and also said" she is really confused and dont know which way to turn right now"

WW also rewriting my history......how i was and i was never part of her family (WW & DS).

What i am doing now is to attempt to hold on to her.WW said this after i asked her what ws best for DS wouldnt it be to have a family?

She swings so wildly in emotions and outbursts. One minute she calls herself a prostitute then next she doesnt trust the changes i am making.

how do you deal with marriage history rewrite? do you rebut them or do you let them slide off you?

should i let her "find" fall in love stay in love?

Its 3.5 months and i am feeling stressed..,,

help anyone.Its almost like she has split personality.

first before I forget: please edit and change the subject line to not have abbreviations in it <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> its unintelligable to most people, I think.

otherwise, I'm afraid all I have to mention, is to say; you cant "hold on to her". you dont "have her" right now to start with. Probably would be a good idea to reframe what you are doing, in your own mind, i would think.



hopefully, after you make the subject line clearer, other people with experience, will reply with more relevant info for you. I'm intersted in the results too <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I am so sorry...I am NOT holding on to her.no .......no she s saying that i am attempting to hold on to her through our DS.

No and i am totally aware that i dont "have her" either.

I am just wondering how do you deal with History rewrite?

You deal with it just like any of her other lies and fabracations.

You already know the truth. She is manipulating events in her mind to try and justify the unjustifiable. It's just more fog babble.

Give it all the consideration it is due. NONE!

Stay Strong!

nc007,
When speaking to a WS its best to keep it simple. The more you try to convince them they are wrong the more they will dig their heels in.

Orchid has some great reverse babble.

I was never clever enough in the moment to turn things around so I would keep it simple. Think of it as talking w/ someone who is insane...like they believe they are Santa Claus. Repeat what they say then add... "Thats interesting" or "I didn't know you felt that way" or "I remember it differently"

No use in trying to fight it out while they are in the fog...they just don't get it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />