Today I turn 40 and everyone told me this is a turning point for me. I'm trying to move forward and not to look back.

Tonight I'm going to out with friends including some new male friends (whom recently went through a divorce also) This is probably what I needed. I wouldn't call it a date but is the first time in 18 years I have been out with another man other than my WxH.

Next month it will be three years since my WXH started his affair with the OW and 2 1/2 years since I last saw him. I can't believe I still hurt but not as much. I don't cry everyday anymore. I'm ready to go out and have some fun tonight. Tomorrow night my girlfriends are taking me to the "The Cave" its a male strip club in Philadelphia. I never thought I would ever enter a place like that but I'm ready to let loose.I need to have fun.

I'm a little bum today thought, orginally my WxH was going to get married on my b-day but has change it to July 7, 2007 (7-7-7) he saids it would be luckier day. My in-laws was going to throw me a b-day party but cancelled it thinking they were going to attend the wedding. Now they have forgotten my b-day, even though I saw them today, they never mentioned it. They have alot happening with their best friend given a couple days to live and moving in their new house, right now it is hectic for them. Two years ago my MIL yelled at my WXH for not calling me on b-day.

I still have mixed feeling about turning 40, especially since my biological clock is about to expire, but I always keep in mind my Mom had me at the age of 44. I was her first and last child. So I still have time. Right now I am going to enjoy this moment in my life and maybe with a little luck I will move on with my life.

Hi HD!

40! Wow! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

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Give them heck, no frenching!!

I went to one of those clubs with some friends, years ago. Everyone, even the old grey-haired grandma's were kissing the dancers, like REALLY kissing.

ALL of my friends came home with strep-throat <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> I didnt, the cootie-factor totally creeped me out, but it was funny to watch them all explain the strep to their SO's <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Anyway, it was extremely fun! Have a great time. And HAPPY BIRTHDAY! - Dru

You are right. You've still got time.

Mrs Field and I have a 1 yr old right now. We're both in our mid 40's. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Our littlest girl has been a HUGE blessing for our family. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Enjoy your Bday tonight and have some fun. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Wishing you the best.

Thanks, I had a great time with my friends tonight and probably a better time tomorrow night with just the girls. I need to go out and have fun and it feels great.

My in-laws finally called feeling really bad that they forgot what day it was. Also my two and 1/2 year old niece called me ( with help from Mom and Dad), she is so precious and just to think my WxH has only seen her once when she was a few weeks old. What he is missing out by not watching his only brother's little girl grow up. But enough about him. His family has been so wonderful and once again MIL wanted me to know how she loves me like a daughter and nothing is going to change that.

I never thought I would say this but maybe turning 40 is a good thing. Even my birthday horoscope said today. the past is the past and leave it there. Start anew. This might be a great opportunity to finally let loose and enjoy life.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!

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shower your in-laws with affection & praise ... they are wonderful

and, I am certain, they miss their son terribly ... after all ... it's the INFIDELS they have to try & maintain a relationship with [i]against their will

in-laws never wanted to be where they are either ... so be sure you show them appreciation & affection weekly

YOU are going to be fine

Pep <~~~~ it's been a long time since my 40th B-day! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />