Would he mind the behavior if it was completely and totally him in your shoes?
He has said that he trusts me implicitely and knows that I would not let down my boundaries.
What I am reading into what you are saying is she is flirting with him. I think everyone else here can see it too. That is not acceptable in an M.
Thank you I wanted to make sure I wasn't making something more than what was there. I tend to doubt myself now.
He can do something about it. He can not accept it comfortably.
See if he seemed uncomfortable with it she would probably stop.
That's just it they both seemed comfortable about it. This was even done in front of my teenage daughter. The only uncomfortable time was when we were at a table and he sat beside her, however he knew at that point I was probably watching because when we went to the function and the two sat close because of the way the chairs were he wasn't uncomfortable at all.
Your above statement is what we have talked about before. I have discussed with him warning signals from other women, and that touch is one of them. Has he forgotten so soon?
The same thing I do when a women is flirting with me. I start talking about my wife and my children. I tell her how much I love you. That pretty much stops it.
I will suggest this to him.
One time I was on a reward trip and that didn't work so I took the girl and said come here. I walked over to a friend that was single. I said "he is single and I am not, have a good night". Wow she stopped flirting with me. Go figure.
He wouldn't do this because he doesn't want to hurt her.
The other thing is that he has had EA's. How did they start?
They were work related. I see where he has raised his awareness at work and holds the women at work at bay. I don't think he has applied this at school now.
So his expectation is for you to trust him not to do it again. I will trust you not to do it again when I see a consistent pattern of behavior that makes me believe that. You accepting this flirting does not make me believe that.
Thank you for putting this into words this is some of what I need.
How do I approach him without putting him in the defensive mode because he will be as soon as I tell him I was uncomfortable with it.